Jealousy and insecurity don’t have to be the cause of ending relationships, although these factors can be the reasons why some relationships don’t last. Indeed, when a person is jealous, they are petty, small and mean – like someone who is too worried about what their neighbors, friends, colleagues and peers are doing to focus on their own career and life. What’s more, when an individual is very insecure, they are fragile, uncomfortable and uncertain as they do not have a sense of pure ease which makes other people like and admire them (they are unable to relax). However, nobody must be 100% perfect so as to be in love. Truthfully, jealousy and insecurity are simply facts of being a normal human being. Yet how to manage jealousy and insecurity is key in dating and relationships.
- What’s more important?
What actually matters is how frequently you are jealous and how often you are insecure. What’s more, how much you allow negative emotions to run your relationship is paramount. Let’s say you merely feel jealous once a year, that’s okay. Nevertheless, if you are jealous every day, that’s a problem you must cope with. Also, if jealousy does not run your relationship, that’s all right. By contrast, if you allow jealousy to be in charge of your relationship, you would be well-advised to see a psychologist.
In terms of insecurity, everyone has moments when their body is slightly out of shape or they dislike the wrinkle or pimple on their face sometimes. Everybody feels that other people are cleverer than them and are embarrassed by that. All of these are commonplace. What definitely matters is how you respond to your emotions and feelings like that.
Why is communication so key?
When you are jealous or insecure, would you keep it as your top secret? Or would you argue with your partner because of that?
I have a solution – simply take a moment to calmly explain what makes you uncomfortable in an honest manner. You can have the strength to prioritize radical self-love so the jealousy or insecurity will have less impact. As a result, jealousy or insecurity is something that you work around in life – or it can be something endearing, provided you are able to own it bravely while showing solid confidence elsewhere in life.
Thus, it can be seen that everybody feels insecure and jealous at times, and being able to honestly communicate your feelings and emotions is paramount. More importantly, when you are truly confident, jealousy and insecurity would only register scarcely in your life – they cannot run your life.
Are you confident in dating and relationships?
Most people are not aware of this fact: Absence of confidence is usually the fundamental reason for depression and anxiety. Well, difficult life experiences may lead to depression and anxiety, yet there are many successful individuals who run huge corporations very well despite their issues in life. That means different people’s confidence levels are dramatically different. That is to say, those who are successful never allow issues in their personal life to be in charge because they have solid confidence to cope with problems effectively.
When you have confidence in dating and relationships, you are more likely to succeed in other areas of your life as well, because you know your romantic relationship is safe. But if you lack confidence in love, please invest in yourself by reading books and studying online programs when you can.
The majority of successful businesspeople who run big companies hired mentors at the very beginning of their careers because they usually do not learn things through trial and error. You might even hire a dating coach to give you the fast-track to success in love.
Most people who are fit and healthy do not sit in front of a computer for 8 hours a day. I have a friend who is a manager of a clothing shop. She studied IT at university but didn’t complete her degree because she would rather be with clothes. “I know this sounds silly, but I’d rather be with clothes,” says Cindy, the manager of a concession clothing shop in a department store, “If I sit in front of a computer for eight hours a day every day, I wouldn’t have the fitness that I have right now.” Clearly, no matter what you want to achieve, you have to find a way to make it happen in the first place.
“Do you have the confidence to share your insecurities with your partner?”