International dating: What Makes Men Want to Commit to A Woman?

According to an international dating expert, attraction is different from commitment. It’s not hard to attract a man, but it takes more to keep him. Now let’s look at the factors that make men want to commit.

Give him a bit of a taste tester to make him want the whole meal.

When you’re attracted to a guy, it’s very tempting to invest a lot in him. But the more you invest in him, the less he will feel attracted to you. That’s because he needs to earn your investment in him. Don’t invest based on how much you like him; invest based on how much he invests in you. Therefore, it’s your responsibility to show your high value and make him invest in you and want more.

Let him know that a relationship with you means variety.

The real reason why men associate being single with fun is because they think being single means having variety in life. Hence, you can make him associate seeing you with having variety, meaning you are spontaneous, interesting and fun-loving. In this way, he will change his associations with being in a long-term relationship and want to commit to you.

When he says he doesn’t want a relationship, you still show him the best version of yourself.

If he tells you that he doesn’t want to have a serious relationship, don’t become mad at him. Instead, you can say, “I’m not asking you to marry me” with a smile on your face. And then you invest less time in him, i.e., whenever he wants to see you, he isn’t your priority anymore, because now your priority in life has become your hobbies, career, family and friends. But when he does see you again, you show him your beauty, pleasant personality, spontaneity and positive mindset, i.e., you’re still the best version of yourself. In other words, he still has a fantastic time whenever he sees you, but your investment in him has reduced because he told you he doesn’t want a relationship. Now he will probably change his mind because clearly, he wants more from you as he is fascinated by your positive energy and beautiful personality.

Don’t give him all the benefits of a relationship before he is committed to you.

If he isn’t committed to you, you must prioritize other areas of your life first and try not to make him your No. 1 priority. Remember: He has to earn your time. He will only appreciate things that he has earned. He shouldn’t enjoy all the benefits of having a girlfriend before you officially become his girlfriend.

The myth of “till death do us part”

Not every relationship is supposed to last forever. Realistically, most relationships in modern western society don’t last for a lifetime. Hence, “till death do us part” has become a myth at each wedding.

1) The importance of surrendering to destiny:

In life, there are many things that are outside of your control. For example, you can’t control who you’ll meet; you can’t control who will start a relationship with you; you also can’t control when your relationship will end. Well, you can merely try to manage situations, but you can’t control everything. So, you should do what you can do and make peace with the rest.

2) Closure or Completion?

When a romantic relationship ends, you don’t really need closure, as in truth, that’s called completion.

Truthfully, if a romantic relationship ends, it doesn’t necessarily mean this relationship has failed. It only means this romantic relationship is probably meant to end at this point in your life, which is fine – you just need to accept this simple fact.

Actually, surrendering to destiny is possibly the most powerful thing you could do in life, for though everyone is supposed to take action and be proactive, life is surely 100 times easier when you believe in fatalism as well, particularly in terms of your love life.

Therefore, you have to stop resisting your destiny’s plan and start surrendering to your destiny & accepting what’s happened already.

Indeed, if you think of it carefully, you’ll realize that even though that relationship has already ended, that romantic relationship is definitely very meaningful and valuable; your ex absolutely, positively added good value to your life during that romantic relationship.