People make mistakes in their relationships all the time. I’ve summarized the most common mistakes that individuals make in love below. Hopefully you enjoy today’s safer dating tips and ideas.

  • Common Mistake #1: Failing to build a shared vision.

It’s easy to have chemistry. It’s also relatively easy to create the emotional connection in a romantic relationship. But in order to make a relationship last, the third ingredient is paramount – a shared vision.

A shared vision refers to the blueprint that you and your partner have for the future that you will build together, e.g. both of you want to get married and have children; both of you want to live in this city in the long term; both of you have similar/compatible values.

  • Common Mistake #2: Ignoring red flags.

No one is perfect, so when someone shows you a red flag, it’s your job to call them out immediately. However, a lot of people choose to ignore red flags because they fear the fact that their partners might leave them. That’s how a red flag leads to the worst behavior in the end.

  • Common Mistake #3: The relationship is the only source of joy and happiness.

If you derive all your confidence from your romantic relationship, you are in danger, because when your relationship doesn’t work out, you will lose all your confidence.

The best way to build core confidence is to find sources of joy and happiness outside of your romantic relationship – you should enjoy your hobbies, improve your career, spend quality time with your friends and family & learn new skills. These will actually make you a more attractive person that your partner will absolutely adore.

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  • What Makes Someone Fall Out of Love?

Research in the United States and Canada shows that although different people fall out of love due to different reasons, there are some patterns that have been identified in this regard.

  1. The worst behavior in a relationship makes someone fall out of love.

What do I mean by “the worst behavior”? Well, please let me explain.

Leaving a relationship is a much harder decision than starting a relationship with someone. When you fall in love with someone, perhaps the attraction was triggered by their attractiveness, personality, etc. But when you decide to leave someone, usually the decision is caused by that person’s worst behavior rather than some minor issues. Here are a few typical examples:

  • Cheating
  • Outrageous financial infidelity
  • Lack of respect
  1. The willingness to work on yourself is the solution to most problems.

If everyone is 100% responsible for their own happiness, this world will be a much better place. I know this sounds like a cliché, but it’s the truth.

Safer dating tip: Actually, nobody is perfect; everyone has some bad behavior – that’s very normal. But it is your responsibility to make sure that your bad behavior won’t become your worst enemy which ends your relationship.

 

 “Today’s safer dating advice is about how to avoid the most common mistakes in dating and relationships.”