An excellent conversationalist is captivating and engaging. He makes his lady feel absolutely amazing and very important. He knows how to attract a woman and keep her attracted. What’s his secret in dating and relationships?
- The power of the push-pull technique:
First of all, please let me explain the concept of push pull by showing you a sales example.
Two decades ago, I was working in retail selling shoes. At that time, my manager told me to sell leather conditioner as well when the customer was paying for the shoes at the till. A sales strategy that I used was push pull:
“Would you like to get a leather conditioner to clean your shoes?” I ask the customer.
If the customer doesn’t answer my question directly because she was still thinking about it, I say, “You don’t have to get it from here. You can get it elsewhere. Just make sure it’s a proper leather conditioner. And if you get it elsewhere, be sure to do a spot test. The leather conditioner should make your shoes last longer.”
If the customer is still not sure what to do, I say, “You can get it today while you are here. It’s up to you.”
My sales result was the best in that company because I used the push-pull technique all the time. In the example above, the underlined areas are the pull, whereas the bold areas are the push.
Interestingly, in dating and relationships, push pull works extremely well, too. For instance, you can say this to a lady, “I thought you were cute until you tell me that!”
When she is not quite sure if she can have you, she begins to chase you psychologically.
- A simple way to add value to any conversation:
If you are a beginner in dating and relationships, you can start from a simple way to add good value to a conversation – “Yes, and…”
Basically, after a woman says something meaningful, valuable or interesting, you acknowledge what you’ve heard and then immediately you add a comment. This comment should give her some engaging content, e.g., unusual insights, creative ideas, and so on.
Please don’t get me wrong. I’m certainly not saying you have to be highly intelligent in order to implement this technique. In fact, as long as what you say is value-adding, that should be totally fine. Of course, if you are a knowledgeable person, this technique should help you to showcase your knowledge and make you an outstanding conversationalist on a date.
“If you implement the above-mentioned techniques on every date, you will find happiness, joy and satisfaction in record time.”
