Should nice guys finish last? Well, in dating & relationships, that happens quite often. If you are wondering why nice guys finish last, today’s safe dating advice will definitely give you the answer.
Women like men who know what they want.
If you are very nice to women, please ask yourself, “Why am I very nice to women? Am I nice because I’m kind? Or am I nice because I want to be liked?”
Note that there is a fundamental difference between being nice and being kind. I strongly believe that being kind is an amazing quality, but being nice isn’t necessarily a positive quality because it depends on why you are nice.
Are you so nice because you are genuinely kind?
Or are you so nice because you want something from women?
Women do care whether you are kind or not, but when it comes to whether you are nice or not, that’s a bit different. Please let me explain.
In fact, women logically think they want ABC, but they actually respond to XYZ emotionally. For example, a woman might say, “I would like to date a nice guy”. However, as a matter of fact, she truly prefers a kind guy who knows what he wants (and can get it)! I hope today’s safe dating advice makes sense, so I’m going to explain this key idea further.
The ability to take what you want is key; meanwhile, you should allow your partner to take what she wants as well.
A strong and assertive man wants to achieve his career goals, marry a high-value woman and look after his health. And he can make his dreams come true. That’s the kind of men that women are attracted to.
Remember, a strong person is able to take what he/she wants. For instance, Jim is an alpha guy. When he asks women out for dates, he wouldn’t say, “Would you like to go on a date with me?” Instead, he says, “There is a new French restaurant in the city. Let’s go there for dinner on Friday night. Would you like me to pick you up at 6pm or 7pm?” (What time she chooses doesn’t really matter; Jim wants the date!)
Sometimes he even says, “I’m at the bar next to the restaurant that we had dinner the other day & the live music here is perfect right now. I think you should come!”
Please be an assertive guy and cultivate the ability to take what you want because people don’t have to give you what you want.
Meanwhile, when you are in a relationship, you also need to allow your partner to take what she wants. For example, Jim’s girlfriend wants to learn investing from him, so she actually asks Jim to teach her every Thursday night from 8pm to 9pm. Clearly, Jim’s girlfriend is an assertive woman. 😉
“Hopefully today’s safe dating advice is adding good value to your love life.”
