I’d like to start this article by introducing a concept: “The nice guy syndrome” – some men are nice and polite while interacting with women because they want to be liked, but sadly, their behavior is a turn-off. In this blog post, I’m going to point out why you should take a risk in the safer dating world.
- What do high-value women respond to?
High-value women aren’t attracted to men who have ‘the nice guy syndrome’ because there is no challenge in the dynamics. In order to make high-value women feel attracted, you need to have some perceived challenge.
For example, when a high-value woman says, “I’ve never been on a plane before,” what are you going to say to her if you are on a date with her?
Some men who suffer from ‘the nice guy syndrome’ would probably hide the fact that they feel very surprised because they don’t want to offend a high-value woman. However, in this case, you should actually show her that you are surprised by saying something along the lines of, “What?! How old are you?” (By the way, you can only say this after establishing the connection with her so that she knows you are genuine and honest – you are not laughing at her.)
In this situation, if you are able to take a risk by showing her how you truly feel, she is more likely to find it refreshing because most men put her on a pedestal, whereas you are honest with her. In this way, you can build an authentic relationship, so obviously, safer dating is a healthy approach.
- Sometimes, you need to risk losing in order to win.
“I’ve known Celena for eight years and I’m attracted to her so much,” says Harry, “But I don’t know how to make her my girlfriend.”
“Have you asked her whether she can start a relationship with you?” I’m curious.
“No, I haven’t,” says Harry, “I don’t have the courage because she might say no and our friendship will probably be over.”
Clearly, Harry doesn’t want to take a risk, but in dating, you have to risk losing so as to win. Not taking a risk is the biggest risk of all! Frankly, if Harry doesn’t even ask Celena, the answer is always/already no, but if he asks Celena, the answer may be yes.
“Hopefully you find this key idea helpful & I wish you all the best in the safer dating world. ❤️”
