“I just turned 40 a few months ago,” says Timothy, “My mother is giving me too much pressure because I’m still single. She really wants me to get married as she wants to have grandchildren now. Sometimes I feel angry because of that. What should I do?”
As this is a blog about safer dating advice, this article is going to be totally relevant – single men’s wellbeing is important.
Channel your energy into productivity.
Timothy is upset because his mother gives him a lot of pressure – he is still single at 40 years of age, but his mother wants grandchildren right now. Timothy spends a lot of time with his parents as they recently moved to the city where Timothy has been living for 14 years & they live in Timothy’s house currently. His father is fine, but his mother constantly gives him lots of pressure due to his single status.
My advice for Timothy is to set boundaries with his parents because his wellbeing is paramount. Timothy has a full-time job and runs his online business as a side hustle, so he is very busy. When he is not at work, he is usually doing his online business at home most of the time – at his desk in his bedroom. That means he doesn’t really have to interact too much with his mother.
Here is how Timothy sets his boundaries: He takes his parents out for dinner or trips regularly – that’s enough quality time for them. He sends his mother to a local community class to learn a foreign language three days a week – that’s something that his mother always wanted to learn anyway, so she is very happy with that. Meanwhile, his father is quite easy-going and is willing to do more housework at home when Timothy is doing his online business & his mother is studying the foreign language in class. Everyone has something meaningful to do, so his mother doesn’t have to nag him about getting married as soon as possible all the time anymore.
Note that Timothy is proactively looking for a relationship. In order to be efficient, he has joined a safer dating website called SimplyDating.com where he chats with women from Eastern Europe while having a break from work every day.
Manage other areas of your life properly so that you can have the bandwidth for your love life.
In fact, Timothy has been dealing with a difficult boss at work for almost two years. Clearly, his full-time job is the reason why he doesn’t want to give up on his online business: If he runs into an idiot while doing his own business, he can end the interaction and walk away; however, if he runs into an idiot while working for an organization, he has to say “Sorry, boss”. As a result, he wants to keep his online business – one day he might grow it big enough so he can give up on his day job. For now, his full-time job gives him a sense of security.
Fortunately, the difficult boss has recently resigned; therefore, Timothy feels deeply relieved. Now he can enjoy his work, so this joy gives him more mental capacity to embrace his love life. He says, “If my boss doesn’t leave this company, I might have to find a new job. But now I can keep this current job and feel positive.”
If other areas of your life stress you out, please figure out how to cope with the stress by finding effective solutions. In this way, you’ll have more energy for your love life.
Hopefully today’s safer dating advice is reasonably inspiring and helpful. 😉
