“I can attract women,” says Gabe, “But I can’t attract really, really attractive, high-value women that I truly like. Help!”
Gabe isn’t alone. In fact, I mainly receive questions from two kinds of men: 1) Men who can’t attract women because they don’t have the social skills. 2) Men who can attract women, but they would like to attract high-quality women rather than mediocre women. Since I’ve already written many articles about social skills, today I’m going to share my new insights into dating and relationships – how to date out of your league.
- Superficial value VS real value:
Most men want to date high-value women. Most women want to attract high-value men. But how do we define “high value”? Well, in fact, there are two types of value:
- Superficial value – This is about someone’s looks, status or fame. For example, a good-looking woman has high superficial value; a celebrity has high superficial value.
- Real value – This is about a person’s personality and traits as well as your actual experience with this person when you communicate with them.
Therefore, if you’ve just met someone, you can probably see this person’s superficial value only, because it takes time to see a person’s real value. So, please don’t put a pretty woman on a pedestal.
- How to increase your value in dating and relationships:
Please use this value adjuster that will immediately increase your value when you interact with a woman that you think is out of your league: “You and I would not get along.”
This works because you are actually saying, “There is potentially a relationship between us – I don’t necessarily want that relationship & in this process, I am the decider.” These are very strong statements for an attractive woman who has been put on a pedestal by other men. Remember, your willingness to walk away and your non-neediness make you stand out from the crowd – you are outstanding!
As a high-value man, you are the chooser, so please don’t start selling yourself quickly. Instead, you should show her that you are interested, but you are not sold. Hence, you’d better challenge her and ask her qualifying questions. That means you must know your standards – What qualities does your ideal partner need to have apart from her looks? If you would like to date an intelligent woman, you can ask her what kind of books she loves reading and see whether she is intellectually curious. If you prefer dating an adventurous woman who can travel with you, ask her whether her job allows her to travel. As long as you have standards, you are an abundant and high-value guy that she respects & admires.
“If you think someone is out of your league, think again. Maybe you’ve only seen her superficial value, so it’s very important to figure out her real value. I hope my new insights into dating and relationships have helped you to some degree today.”
