Rejection is hard to deal with. But frankly, if you are never rejected, that means you only reached for the low-hanging fruit – you haven’t reached your full potential yet. Today’s safe dating advice for singles is about the courage to be rejected.
- What should keep you awake at night?
If you didn’t approach that woman due to fear of rejection, that means you didn’t even try – this should keep you awake at night.
By contrast, if you approached her and she gave you a rejection, you can sleep at night because you know you’ve tried your best – there is no regret.
I remember many years ago when I was a retail manager, I had to give my team members training regularly. Whenever there was a new team member, I had to teach this person more information, especially after this person made a mistake. Sometimes I really didn’t want to tell someone that they made a mistake because I didn’t like having uncomfortable conversations. But if I didn’t even start a difficult conversation, I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night – I knew the team member would probably make the same mistake again due to lack of awareness, so I accumulated enough courage to talk about the new team member’s mistake as well as how to improve in the future. The new team member was nervous because they didn’t want to be disliked, which made me feel more nervous. However, I realized something important: As long as I explained things clearly and professionally & I wasn’t rude, it doesn’t matter because I can’t control how other people feel. I can only control when and how to say what & I can only try my best, but I can’t control other people’s reactions. In other words, anxiety comes from trying to control what I can’t control. Peace comes from focusing on what I can control and making peace with the rest. 😊
- Safe dating advice for singles: Do you want to be authentic? Or do you want to be liked?
I would argue that freedom is being disliked by others. Indeed, when you follow where your purpose is leading you, not everybody will like what you are doing. In fact, being disliked by others is the evidence that proves you are living in freedom and exercising your freedom; it’s a sign that you are living in accordance with your values and your own principles. ❤️
Nevertheless, if you shift your desires in order to meet other people’s expectations just to be liked, then you are literally living an unfree life. Of course, please don’t go out of your way to be disliked, but you need the courage to be disliked as being disliked is unavoidable.
“So, if you are a single guy looking for love, please don’t do XYZ simply because you think that woman might like XYZ. Do XYZ because you genuinely believe it’s the right thing to do! I hope today’s safe dating advice makes sense!”
