“When I was young, I went to an all-boys school, so many years later, I still feel nervous whenever I talk to women,” says Kyle, “I’m too shy.”Kyle is looking for a long-term relationship, but he is just too shy to start conversations with women he meets, so let’s talk about how to become socially confident.
- The power of mental rehearsal:
My advice for Kyle is to try mental rehearsal, i.e., before he even starts a conversation with a woman, he should imagine talking to women in a relaxed and confident manner.
His imagination helps him to condition his mindset so that he becomes more engaging while talking with women. 😊
Many professional athletes and pop singers use this technique before doing something important in front of a big audience.
I highly encourage you to try mental rehearsal and see how this technique improves your headspace and prepare your vibe for interesting conversations with women.
- A long-term relationship starts from saying hi.
After the mental rehearsal, you should start from saying hi to people when you meet them. When you meet a woman you like, you start the conversation by saying hi and then you’ll find a way to keep the conversation going.
An easy way to keep the conversation going is to meet her at the right place because the context is important. For example, if you join a salsa dance class and start a conversation with a woman, chances are she will help you to keep the conversation going because you have something in common – both of you like salsa dance. 😉
- Reframe your nervousness:
If you feel nervous while talking to women, please reframe your anxiety. From now on, let’s call it excitement or energy!
In fact, anxiety and excitement happen in the same area of your brain, so how you feel when you are nervous can be seen as excitement – that’s right!
With this positive mindset, you are more likely to relax and meet the right person sooner.
I hope your journey takes you to a happy destination.
“A long-term relationship gives you a sense of security. Relationship certainty is paramount.”
