While you are thinking about joining the international dating arena, please carefully think about what you actually want in life because your answer will determine the direction of your love life as well as other areas of your life.
- Know what you want.
Before you get what you want, you have to clearly know what you want in the first place. I’d like you to write down a list of key things that are important to you.
Here is Max’s list:
- I want a peaceful and drama-free life.
- I want a career that is right for the current version of myself.
- I want a fit body and a healthy mind.
Based on Max’s list, it is clear that he needs a partner who has a calm personality, supports his career choices and values health & fitness.
In fact, Max only dated western women in the past and he didn’t really have any positive experience with western women who tend to be more dramatic, more egotistical and more likely to have habits such as drinking & smoking. Therefore, my advice for him is to join an international dating site like SimplyDating.com where he can meet traditional and elegant women from Eastern Europe who have a much healthier value system.
- Know what you don’t
After figuring out what you actually want in life, you also need to be aware of what you don’t want in life because life isn’t perfect – sometimes what you don’t want will arise (that’s a given), so it’s a matter of how you handle the situation when it happens.
Let’s say you don’t want drama in your life, so you are dating a very calm and intelligent lady. But what if your mom is dramatic? Obviously, you have to keep in touch with your mom. Meanwhile, you must set solid boundaries so that your mom can’t get involved in your relationship with your partner.
Also, your mental health is very important, so you’d better learn how to manage the drama queen in your life. In this case, because your mom likes drama and you have to spend time with her, you need to know how to manage her correctly. For instance, you can establish some principles and clarify what you will talk about with her and what you won’t talk about with her. You also need to find out how much time you actually need to spend with her each week. While spending time with your mom, be sure to have an external focus, e.g., an activity that you do together such as watching a movie, so that you can minimize the drama caused by having conversations with her.
Another really helpful strategy is to focus on your mission in life which can be your career or a hobby. When you enjoy what you do in your life, you won’t be petty because certain meaningless drama around you won’t even matter – you don’t have time for that.
Frankly, people who always think about the amount of drama they have to deal with possibly don’t know what they want because they are focusing on the wrong things if they constantly think about what they don’t want.
Yes, you need to be aware of what you don’t want, but you shouldn’t focus on what you don’t want. Remember, when you focus on your problems, your problems grow.
Make sure you find a supportive partner who truly understands you via international dating!
“You deserve a joyful relationship and a happy life!”
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