Because this blog is about safe dating, today I’d like to talk about the uncomfortable but important topic: financial infidelity in relationships. If you are not in a relationship yet, this blog post will give you some knowledge about this topic & hopefully this article will help you navigate the dating journey successfully.
When one partner keeps major financial secrets from the other partner, that’s the definition of financial infidelity.
Imagine this: You think you are aware of everything about your wife’s personal finances, but one day you accidentally notice that your wife’s wallet is full of credit cards that you have never seen before, or you find out that she has a house in another city nearby, or you suddenly realize that she has $30,000 debt. How do you feel?
Note that this kind of situation doesn’t necessarily have to happen in romantic relationships. In fact, Michael Jackson’s business manager used Michael’s money to enjoy a high-end apartment in Las Vegas for a long time, and he didn’t know it until his bodyguard had to tell him when Michael had nowhere to live (Yes, I know this is a bit hard to believe, but as a matter of fact, when the wrong people were hired, even King of Pop became broke.)
Now when this problem happens in a romantic relationship, it’s equally bad, if not worse. Therefore, you have to be aware of situations like this if you would like to find a partner and build a healthy relationship. That’s why you would be well-advised to read this safe dating blog regularly.
Main reasons for financial infidelity in relationships:
The first reason is the most common reason: she is preparing for separation or divorce. That means she is unwilling to invest in this relationship, and she is ready to leave now. She wants to get ready for her life after this relationship ends!
Another common reason is addiction, e.g., gambling. She is hiding her addiction, so she must hide the truth about her personal finances.
Third, physical infidelity is not uncommon. When that happens, she might need to spend money on her lover and hide the expense from you.
Signs of financial infidelity:
Yes, you can see some signs if you are switched-on.
First of all, when you ask her normal questions about finances and she becomes defensive or evasive, that’s a red flag.
Second, if you discover expensive shoes, bags or clothes hiding at the back of her closet, that’s a major sign.
Next, she has suddenly purchased something very expensive without discussing it with you first – that means probably she has done that before & it’s normal for her to do that.
I hope you will keep your eyes wide open when you are dating someone so that you won’t ignore red flags. Please only start a relationship with a woman after you know her character. This is the ultimate safe dating advice. ❤️
“Have you had any similar experiences in your previous relationships? Leave a comment below and let us know how you coped with this situation.”
