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When you are on a date with an Eastern European woman, she says, “I love hip hop music”. In this moment, should you say, “Me too”? Or should you tell her the truth: “But I like jazz music”?
If you say “Me too”….
“I love hip hop music.”
“Me too.”
When you agree with her and tell her that you like whatever she likes, you are trying to build the rapport with her, which is understandable, and if you only do that once, it’s fine. 😊
However, if that’s overdone, it will be counterproductive because she will feel that you are putting her on a pedestal. Consequently, she starts to question your value – a high-value guy wouldn’t put her on a pedestal.
Remember: Dating isn’t about making the fewest mistakes. Dating is about doing most things right, so your mistakes don’t matter. More importantly, you have to do the most fundamental things right.
Truthfully, the question isn’t about stopping qualifying yourself to her; the question is how to get her to qualify herself to you.
In dating, the person who is qualifying themselves to the other person is the person who has lower social value. If she qualifies herself to you, she begins to feel that you are the ultimate high-value guy. Therefore, being with you is a win for her. 😊
The benefit of getting an Eastern European woman to qualify herself to you:
When she qualifies herself to you, she is investing in you. Also, it gives you a genuine reason to like her. For instance, when she says, “I like jazz music, too.”, you can say, “That’s cool. I like that.” (Psychologically, her interpretation is “You are cool. I like you.”)
You can create an opportunity for her to qualify herself. For example, you can say, “I think spontaneous people are the most interesting people. Would you agree with that?”
If she agrees with you, you can give her a compliment as positive reinforcement, e.g., “Spontaneous people are more adventurous. I like your adventurous personality.” Now she wants to agree with you even more!
But if she disagrees with you, that’s fine. You know she is not in that frame yet, so you flirt with her a bit more and joke around. You have more fun and good conversations, and then you try again later, e.g., “What do you think is the best quality of your character?” 😉
“Eastern European women like high-value alpha men who are leaders in relationships.”
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