If you are preparing for the first date with a lady, this article will show you exactly how to attract her and make her interested in building a romantic relationship with you!
Don’t change topics too frequently.
The most common mistake that men make on the very first date is changing topics too frequently. Men make this mistake because they are quite nervous: They don’t know how to keep the conversation going, so they have to keep asking different questions, which means they often change topics too fast.
That’s a huge mistake as it builds no connection with the lady. What that does is having a superficial conversation that goes nowhere.
Please note that which topic you talk about doesn’t really matter; what truly matters is what you do with the topic you choose. Ideally, you’d better have a meaningful and interesting conversation with the topic that you have before moving on to the next topic.
Let’s compare these two conversations below.
Conversation A:
HIM: What do you do for a living?
HER: I’m a teacher.
HIM: What do you teach?
HER: I teach history.
HIM: What did you study at university?
HER: I studied education.
HIM: What’s your plan for the next five years?
HER: I might need to change my career.
Conversation B:
HIM: You look very elegant, so I guess you must have a classy job. What do you do?
HER: I’m a teacher.
HIM: That’s interesting. My cousin is also a teacher. She says teaching is a rewarding job because she likes knowledge and enjoys sharing what she has learned with her students. She also says the best part of being a teacher is having so many holidays every year. I really envy her.
HER: I like my job because I love working with children.
Clearly, Conversation B is significantly better than Conversation A as it’s much more engaging.
- Give her some space to invest in the interactions with you.
Remember, you have to pause for a second or two when you are talking to her so that you can build some tension which creates chemistry. Also, when you pause, she has more space to talk a bit more, which makes her invest in the interactions on the first date.
By the way, you don’t have to agree with everything she says. In fact, if you politely disagree with something she has said, she would appreciate your honesty and your perceived challenge becomes higher, which makes her attracted to you even more.
“The first date builds the basic foundation of a good relationship.”
