Internet dating is commonplace right now because everything is digital these days. But it doesn’t mean everyone knows how to use the best dating website correctly; hence, I’ve decided to provide you with a how-to guide today!
- The first message….
If you send something like “Hi” to a lady online, she probably wouldn’t even respond unless you look like Brad Pitt. In other words, if you have good looks, you need less attractive behavior; if you don’t have good looks, you need more attractive behavior.
In reality, most men don’t look like Brad Pitt. So, please make sure the first message that you sent to a lady on the Internet is something more interesting than “Hi”.
A low-effort message can be a generic message that you send to 100 women as well. Without any tailored/personalized content, the message’s conversion rate will be lower. (Yes, online dating is about converting strangers into potential girlfriends).
Let’s say you are looking for a job. You would be ill-advised to send 100 generic resumes to 100 companies, for these companies clearly have different expectations, requirements, and cultures. That is to say, every resume that you send to a company should be tailored according to that company’s situation. Then you will possibly get an opportunity for a job interview. Having said that, if you have a unique and sought-after skill, you don’t need to spend too much time writing your resume – a generic resume will be fine! Therefore, a person with a sought-after skill can afford to send generic, low-effort resumes, whereas someone without a sought-after skill can’t afford to do that and must send tailored resumes.
Similarly, women are evaluating men on the best dating websites (some women are doing this without consciously being aware of their evaluation). Thus, it is your responsibility to send the right messages to women online.
Here is a list of good examples (the first message to a woman on the best dating site):
- “Hi, Blue_Eyed! Thank you for reading my message. I noticed your dating profile and I really like it. In fact, I have secretly liked Titanic for 22 years as well because that movie is very well done and it’s not overdone.” (Note that this message indicates you have actually read her dating profile which mentions she is a fan of the movie Titanic. Because Titanic has a very strong emotive power, your message will help you build an emotional connection with this woman instantly.)
- “Hey, Red_Ruby! Thanks for reading my message. I also miss Spice Girls because I grew up with their music. I guess my ears have a very good memory, so every time I listen to Spice Girls, I feel young again.” (This message immediately shows a common interest that you share with this lady, so she will want to talk to you – Spice Girls is beyond music as it’s about the time you and she grew up!)
- Use Primacy Effect to your advantage on the first date.
Remember to ask the lady out for the first date as soon as possible so that you will know whether she is the right woman for you or not.
The first date is very important because sometimes the first impression is also the last impression – this is called Primacy Effect.
The primacy Effect refers to the fact that people tend to remember what they noticed first during the interaction. That’s exactly why when the first date didn’t go well, chances are you won’t have a second date.
Now you are aware of Primacy Effect, you should be very well-prepared for the first date. Even if you visit your lady in a foreign country, it doesn’t mean she should take you to places that she wants to go to – you still need to be in control. That means you need to do some research in advance: Which restaurants have the most romantic ambiance in her city? Which movies can you see in the cinema when you are there? Do some homework beforehand, please.
“Sufficient preparation is the prerequisite of confidence.”