How to ask a Ukrainian woman out for the second date

“Last week I went out on a wonderful date with a Ukrainian woman and she seemed reasonably interested. Because I have fear of rejection, I don’t know how to ask her out for the second date. I don’t want to look needy or desperate,” says Alexander, “Please help!”

Attraction is organically built over time.

Here is my advice for Alexander: On the first date, you like someone, but that’s just chemistry. In terms of attraction, it takes time to build deep attraction. After the first date, you are still getting to know each other.

As a guy, you have more power in dating and relationships because you are supposed to initiate conversations and interactions with women. Therefore, you can send a message to her, “Hello, how have you been? The other day was so much fun, so we should totally see each other again this week.”

Because Ukrainian women like honest men, she would surely appreciate your boldness and confidence.

If you prefer a more indirect approach, I’d like you to think of what you talked about on the first date: What were the topics/things which made you laugh? What were the entertaining highlights on the first date?

Remember that the best way to reach out after the first date is to send her something that reminds you and this lady a joke from the first date.

Examples:

“This cupcake looks even more hilarious than the one we had.” (+ a photo)

“I’m sure this café is just as fun as the one we went to the other day.” (+ a photo)

An even better approach:

Instead of taking a photo, you can even find a GIF on your phone that reminds both of you of a joke from the first date. This is much more efficient and convenient. And you don’t necessarily have to type a message if you are shy.

Or if you are currently watching a new TV show, you can quickly snap a picture and then send it to her with this message, “I guess you would love this TV show, too.” (This indicates that you know her a bit and you are thinking about her now.)

If you are reading a new book, you could snap a picture and send it with this text message, “I’m sure you would LOVE this book as well.” (This shows that you are an interesting person and knowledge is important to you.)