You’ve been dating a Ukrainian woman and now you want to know whether you’ve found the right relationship. Well, yes, I can give several ways to figure out if you’ve found the one! 😊
- Is the attraction real?
First of all, the attraction in a good international relationship has to be real. If the chemistry is absent, you will never be able to manufacture it later in your life.
Attraction should be the No. 1 reason why you want to be with someone because this is a romantic relationship. A romantic relationship needs romance in the first place, so this can’t be ignored.
Hence, before using logic to justify why a relationship is right for you, you would be well-advised to examine your feelings and emotions – are you emotionally connected with this person? Do you feel truly attracted to her?
What’s more, you need to figure out how much she is attracted to you as well. A high-quality relationship requires mutual attraction because this is the foundation of a healthy relationship that will last for a lifetime. 😉
Ukrainian women are very genuine people, so you will be able to see how much she is attracted to you quite clearly.
- Do you like the way she spends her free time?
If you fundamentally don’t like or respect the way this person spends her free time, you will constantly have conflict due to different priorities in life.
Let’s say she really loves traveling the world, whereas you prefer having more quiet time at home. This relationship won’t work in the long run because you don’t really like the way she spends her spare time.
When one person likes drinking and partying every Friday and Saturday night but the other person hates that, it’s going to be very frustrating in the long term, too. In contrast, if you love music and she loves art, the ways you spend your spare time will probably complement each other because artistic expression is very important to both of you. That is to say, while you are writing songs, she is painting pictures. That’s a very harmonious international relationship!
- Can you get your needs met when you are with her?
How easy is it for you to get your needs met in this international relationship? Is she generous enough for you? Does she make you feel loved all day every day? Do you need to be supported in a certain way?
If it’s very difficult for you to get your basic needs met in this relationship, that means it’s a wrong relationship.
My good friend Sean’s basic need is peace, but his girlfriend only brings complaints and problems (it’s extremely draining), so now they are breaking up. That’s obviously the right decision.
- Do you have the same vision for the future?
If you are in a long-distance relationship, do you have any plans to end this distance?
Apparently, not everyone knows what they want in 5 or 10 years. However, certain key aspects in life must be clarified at the beginning of an international relationship: Do both of you want children? Are you willing to live with your/her parents in the same house?
Note that you should never keep the wrong person interested.
If someone is not very interested in you, please don’t assume that this person has higher value. If you assume that, it probably means you have a self-esteem issue. Remember: you are your own best friend; you take care of yourself. Thus, you don’t need this person’s attention. If someone hasn’t texted you for three weeks, you shouldn’t wonder how to get her to text you again. Instead, you are supposed to move on because you know you are a high-value guy and you deserve someone who is genuinely interested in you.
“Be open to more options at the initial dating stage; be more careful when it comes to who you invest in later. Sadly, most people do the opposite – they don’t create opportunities to meet a lot of people while they are single, and when they meet someone, their standards become low. Be sure to avoid doing that!”
