When it comes to dating and relationships, knowing some persuasive techniques can be very helpful because you should avoid arguments and build rapport with your partner. 😉
- Get her to say yes in her mind before you ask the key question.
You meet a lady at a friend’s house party and she is drinking a cocktail. You can talk about cocktails with her and confirm that she likes cocktails so that she is in the “yes” mindset before you ask her out for a date. Then when you suggest that you two should go to the new cocktail bar together on the weekend, she is more likely to say yes.
Example:
YOU: “You like cocktails, don’t you?”
HER: “Yes.” (She is smiling.)
YOU: “Cocktails are fun and mysterious, right?”
HER: “Yes.” (She looks enthusiastic.)
YOU: “There is a new cocktail bar near here. The music is magnificent. Their ingredients are fresh. We should go there this Friday and check it out. Let me grab your phone number.” (This question is phrased as a statement to further eliminate the possibility of “no”. And the idea is not phrased as the first date, so there is less pressure.)
HER: “Yes.” (She takes out her phone.)
When you take her to the cocktail bar for the first date, you can talk about different cuisines and figure out her favorite food. Then when you suggest that you two should go to a certain restaurant together for the second date, she will probably say yes because that restaurant has her favorite food.
Example:
YOU: “Most of my friends are foodies. Compared to them, I’m not the best chef in the world, but I can appreciate various cuisines.”
HER: “I like Italian food.”
YOU: “Italian food is excellent and very popular worldwide. The Italian culture and its food are intertwined. No wonder Italian cuisine is so well-known.”
HER: “Yes.”
YOU: “A friend of mine highly recommends an Italian restaurant in the city center, so we should go there next week. I’ll text you tonight to confirm the address.” (You are building the anticipation of having the second date without saying that will be the second date. Because you give her nothing to rebel against, she will probably say yes as long as the first date is a positive experience.) 😊
- Make her feel that she has options.
Talking about dating and relationships, most women want men to be leaders in relationships. Meanwhile, women also want to feel that they have choices in the dynamics. Therefore, when you ask a woman out for a date, you can say something along the lines of, “I’ll pick you up on Sunday. What time is better for you, 7pm or 8pm?”
In fact, the exact time doesn’t really matter to you. You are going out for a date with her. That’s the key point. You give her options to make her feel that she can choose a time that suits her – she has options!
Alternatively, you may say something like, “Let’s go to the gallery together on Sunday. Should I pick you up or would you like to meet me there?” (How she is going to get to the gallery doesn’t really matter. All you want is to have a date with her. But you still make her feel that she has options in the interaction!)
Let’s say you meet a woman at a pub which is a bit noisy. You can say, “This place is so noisy.”
She will probably agree with you, so you can say, “We should probably go to the relaxing and quiet bar next door. Would you like to go now or would you like to finish your drink first?”
What you really want to do is to have an instant date with her. Since she feels that she has options, she will probably go with you. It doesn’t really matter whether she wants to go now or a bit later.
“Men who are good at dating and relationships have mastered persuasive techniques. I hope this article has given you some new ideas!”
