I don’t believe in generalization, so I shouldn’t say all Ukrainian women are looking for these traits in men. Therefore, I can only say these qualities are common traits that most Ukrainian ladieswant when it comes to looking for desirable men.
Ukrainian women want to see social proof at the beginning of a relationship.
What does “social proof” mean?
Well, this term was coined by Robert Cialdini in his well-known book Influence in which he says people tend to copy the actions of others in an attempt to undertake behavior in a given situation.
Social proof is also known as informational social influence.
Let me give you an example:
There are two restaurants in the same street. One restaurant has many customers, whereas the other restaurant has zero customer. Which restaurant would you choose when you are planning on having a dinner party with your friends?
I think you will choose the first restaurant because it already has many customers – it must be quite good.
Another example is when you see two fast-food restaurants in the same street in a foreign country. One restaurant is KFC, and the other restaurant has a name that you’ve never heard of. You are looking for some fast food today. Which restaurant would you go to when both restaurants have the same number of existing customers? Probably you will choose KFC because you want to stick to something that you already know – KFC has more influence already, so it must be more reliable. In contrast, you have never heard of the other restaurant before. That is another version of Social Proof. That’s also why becoming a franchisee of KFC is probably easier than starting a new restaurant by yourself in terms of making money.
Similarly, when this concept is utilized in the dating world, Ukrainian ladies want to see social proof. Please let me explain.
When you already have female friends, you have social proof which will tell Ukrainian ladies that you are a high-value guy.
This works even better if you have high-quality female friends!
If your Ukrainian girlfriend is a jealous woman, you may want to have some high-value male friends instead – this also gives you social proof. She can see you are surrounded by successful men, so you must be a successful man as well.
Please note that it doesn’t mean you must have 3,000 friends on Facebook. It only means you should take your Ukrainian woman to your social events so that she can see you already have high-quality friends that she looks up to. In this way, she will respect you more.
By the way, the real difference between people who become successful and those who don’t isn’t necessarily intelligence or work ethic; the real difference is successful people know how to make friends with the right people, whilst unsuccessful people don’t know it.
Indeed, there are three elements that contribute to success: 1) intelligence; 2) hard work; 3) luck.
Truthfully, it is a bit hard to change your IQ. And you can only work so hard (you can work twice as hard, but you can’t work ten times harder than other people as that is not sustainable – you have to work smart!)
Now the real variable in the dynamics is luck. But how can a person have good luck?
Further analysis reveals that a person’s good luck is usually created by this individual’s powerful network. That means if you have powerful friends, it’s a bit easier for you to have good luck.
In reality, you can’t choose your family members, but you can choose your friends in your social circle, right? Therefore, it is of vital importance to build a powerful social circle that can serve you well in terms of your career success.
Once you have figured this out, it won’t be too hard for you to possess social proof in the future.
In order to further help you in this regard, I’d like to recommend several resources that I personally find quite useful:
- Six-minute networking (a free online program offered by Jordan Harbinger, a very well-known podcast host from the United States)
- Never Eat Alone (a book written by Keith Ferrazzi): In this book, the author points out that your weak links are the most valuable contacts in your social circle. Let me explain.
If your friends and family can help you with your career, they must have done it already. In reality, you and your friends share the same (or similar) resources. That means resources that you need are NOTgoing to be offered by your friends. Then who has the resources that you actually need?
Well, your acquaintances are more likely to have different resources. These people are the weak links in your social circle, e.g. your professor from university, your cousin’s boss, your neighbor’s uncle, and so forth. Hopefully this makes sense.
Ukrainian ladies want to date great conversationalists.
You don’t need to become a comedian in order to date Ukrainian women. But you do have to be a reasonably good conversationalist, for a marriage will be a life-long conversation with someone.
Now I’d like to show you how to become a competent conversationalist.
- Ask playful and spontaneous questions such as “If you can wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you want to wake up?”
- Ask questions that can show her personality, e.g. “If you can stop working tomorrow and do whatever you want, what would you do?”
- Ask questions that can display her lifestyle, e.g. “I’m thinking about going to Australia for a holiday because it is said that Australia has the best beach in the world. Are you more of a beach lady or a city lady?”
You can see that these questions allow you to build emotional connection with her because these questions are not about basic facts such as “What do you do?” and “How old are you?”
Within a few minutes of the interaction on the first date, you will be able to connect with this Ukrainian ladyinstantly because of the questions you ask her.
When you are spontaneous, a woman can feel that there is always more to learn about you. Women are intrigued because you are multi-dimensional. There are many different sides to you. If this Ukrainian woman starts a relationship with you, she will have a chance to see how wonderful and exciting your life is. As a result, she will want to be with you – the longer she stays in this relationship, the more good stuff she is going to experience. How fantastic is that?!
Last but not least, you can show a “unique pairing” in your personality through conversations. By that I mean you can let her know that you are loving and bold; you are sensitive and adventurous; you are charming and well-educated. Now you are special. Congratulations!
“When you have a unique combination of qualities, you become very, very attractive.”