Many men are worried about making mistakes in dating and relationships. But I would argue that mistakes are inevitable because they are a part of everyone’s life. Truthfully, if you do all of the fundamental things right, mistakes don’t even matter.
- Ironically, wanting & trying to get a girlfriend prevents you from having a girlfriend.
I was a dating coach helping men improve their love lives, so I can confirm that if a guy desperately needs professional advice regarding how to get a specific woman, he can’t get her. Let me explain.
If a guy consults with me for dating advice such as how to be more charismatic while interacting with women and how to be a better conversationalist on a date, his dating skills will improve tremendously. However, if a guy consults with me for a specific girl that he is trying very hard to get, he can’t have her because she probably knows his neediness already. Remember: in negotiation, the person who is unwilling to walk away from the negotiation table will lose.
The best way to get a girlfriend is to be a high-value guy – you must have an amazing lifestyle: You have your career goals, social circle, hobbies, etc. You are not needy. When you do your own thing and live a wonderful life, high-value women want to be a part of your life, so you can choose the right candidate and start a happy relationship.
A common mistake that lots of men make is they impress their girlfriends with expensive dinners at fancy restaurants and exotic holidays overseas when they start dating someone new. As a result, fancy dinners and exotic holidays have become their girlfriends’ expectations. But when real life starts, their girlfriends realize that these men are actually quite boring and predictable. That’s exactly how men lose value over time in dating and relationships. So, please don’t make this idiotic mistake. You should live your life and invite a like-minded woman into your life!
- Be sure to set the right frame from the beginning.
If you don’t even like going to fancy restaurants, please don’t take a woman to a fancy restaurant for the first date because you don’t want to set the wrong frame for this relationship. Never make that mistake!
Just invite her to things that you do anyway, e.g., going to the gym, enjoying a concert, etc. Well, that also means you need to have a life in the first place! You need to have interesting things going on outside of dating and relationships. 😊
“Are you building a magnificent life for you and your relationship?”
