Looking for a long-term relationship is different from random dating. Here are the three major steps to finding a good relationship.
- Step 1: Focus on yourself & think about the man you need to become.
Ask yourself, “What are my standards? What kind of woman do I want to meet?”
Knowing your standards is paramount because they help you filter women.
For example, Logan’s standards are as follows: This woman needs to be intelligent, kind, honest, curious, and ambitious.
Then ask yourself, “What kind of guy would she want? Am I smart enough? Interesting enough? Cool enough? Do I need to make some changes in my life to improve myself?”
- Step 2: Think about where you need to go in order to meet the right person for a long-term relationship.
The right woman that you would like to meet for a serious relationship is probably not at a nightclub at 3 am.
Perhaps the right person is in the library, at the local museum, or in the art gallery. Maybe you should join a book club, attend a painting class, go to the bookstore nearby, join an internet dating platform, or go to the gym so that you can meet more eligible candidates organically.
- Step 3: Build a social circle full of high-quality people, and then you’ll naturally meet the right person at the right place at the right time with the right introductions.
If you have a social circle that is full of high-quality people, you can meet the right woman easily because good people know good people – your friends will introduce you to their friends.
Don’t do what you normally wouldn’t do just to impress a woman. Let’s say you meet a woman that you like. Please don’t immediately buy her a gift or take her to a fancy restaurant that you usually wouldn’t go to, because when you start to do things that you normally wouldn’t do, you will probably make mistakes. Don’t treat her like a princess before getting to know her. Treat her like a standard friend in your social circle until you know she is actually fantastic. Reward her good qualities after she has shown her good behavior.
“If you are looking for a serious, long-term relationship, please don’t put a woman on a pedestal because you two are equal.”
