Research shows that if the glass on a window of a building is broken and it’s not fixed in time, sooner or later most windows of this building will be broken, because people imitate that behavior – their psychology is influenced by what they see, and then their psychology influences their behavior. This theory applies to other areas of life as well, including dating and relationships. Let me explain.
- An example of the broken windows theory in real life:
More than ten years ago, I worked in fashion retail. That company had a concession store in a big department store where they had 46 concession managers in the previous 20 years because nobody wanted to be their concession manager. Further examination reveals that their head office team was too difficult.
Interestingly, most of their team members at that concession store resigned within 2 months of employment because the workload was unbelievable. Due to the nature of that company and the circumstances inside that department store, their workload was significantly more than a standard concession store’s workload.
I worked there for two years. Frankly, I enjoyed working in fashion retail, partly because I genuinely love fashion, and partly because those customers were amazing. But in the end, I also resigned because of the following reasons:
1) I didn’t get along with four people on the team (and the concession team was a small team) & those four people obviously wouldn’t resign.
2) It was unfair for me to do three times more work than other retail workers do – I was working very long hours without extra pay in order to get things done while my team members were not doing much and looking for ways to offend me.
3) I had enough work experience, so I could find a new job with a reasonable resume.
After I resigned, other people told me that everyone else has also resigned, including 1 person that I couldn’t stand. Although there are valid reasons why people would resign in that context, I believe the broken window theory applies to this scenario: Because everyone around us was talking about the high staff turnover of that concession store and everyone asked me when I would resign, pretty much everybody resigned, including me.
- The broken windows theory in dating and relationships:
When I was much younger, I married a 32-year-old man who was already divorced twice at that time. His marriage with me was his third marriage which only lasted for 3 years. Of course, there are various reasons why we got divorced in the end, but I’m pretty sure the broken windows theory applies to that situation as well: Because he was divorced twice before he met me, divorce was something that would rock up in his mind and my mind quite frequently. Consequently, we got divorced, too.
No wonder research shows that the second marriage’s failure rate is significantly higher than the first marriage’s failure rate & the third marriage’s failure rate is even higher than the second marriage’s failure rate!
Since you are aware of the broken windows theory now, please be sure to choose a partner carefully and build a relationship tactfully.
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