I’m not the prettiest individual in the world, but whenever I actually go out on a date with someone I like, that person usually becomes addicted to me…and now I’m ready to share my secrets with you, so that when you want to attract someone that you’ve met on a reliable dating site, you can do it, too!
Make the conversation fun online.
When you are chatting with someone you are attracted to on a trusty dating site, make sure the conversation is full of humor. Well, that doesn’t mean you must become a comedy writer. As a matter of fact, as long as you can bring your fun energy with you, you will be able to become an engaging conversationalist online.
Here are some examples:
– Why are you single?
– I understand the confusion. It astounds everybody I know 😛
– Shall we have coffee together this weekend?
-Latte or Cappuccino? If you prefer Cappuccino, you can’t come 😀
Basically, you just need to be playful and spontaneous when you are talking to someone on a trusty dating website. That is the best way to flirt online. Oh, don’t forget to use emoticons in conversations on the Internet!
If you have an impressive social media page, ask the person you are talking to on the reliable dating site to visit your social media.
I know many hot women use Instagram to recruit beta orbiters in order to feel good and get male attention on the Internet. But that is not what I’m talking about right now. Now what I’m saying is if you actually have a compelling social media account with the right photos, it will benefit you when your admirers become your friends on social media.
This is because if you only keep in touch with someone on a trusty dating site, then you can only get their attention on the dating platform where there are a lot of other competitors trying to get their attention as well. That’s why you’d better ask your admirer to contact you on Instagram or Facebook.
Whenever that person is looking at Instagram or Facebook, they will see your photos, and that’s exactly when they think of you. Hence, it is an effective way to keep in touch with them and keep flirting on social media.
That being said, I don’t advise people to spend too much time on social media because I believe in digital minimalism which is promoted by Cal Newport. Thus, let’s move on to my next point.
Have a real date and flirt under the radar.
Once you’ve built some connection with someone on a trusty dating website, it’s time to meet that person offline. It doesn’t have to be an official date at this stage; in fact, you can just invite that individual to something that you are already going to do. For instance, you have a weekly Happy Hour on Thursday night, so you can invite that person to this Happy Hour this Thursday.
When you meet this individual, give them a hug immediately. After that, physical touch becomes less awkward because you’ve done it already. And because it’s a Happy Hour when other people are around, the setting is less stressful and more laid-back.
Again, just make it fun, playful and spontaneous. If this dater orders an interesting drink, you can say, “Oh, I guess only someone extremely confident would order this drink.”
If you order an unusual drink, you can ask, “By the way, can you guess the name of my drink?”
This kind of interactions can make you endearing because it demonstrates your love for life and passion about life. If you are a big picture person who doesn’t believe in the power of small details, please let me explain.
There are many small things that aren’t necessary in life. For example, you don’t have to have a topping on a cup of coffee. But the topping makes the coffee meaningful – it’s usually done by a professional in a coffeehouse.
Similarly, flirting like a pro requires you to leverage small details and make things fun!
Have an official date and flirt directly.
Now you’ve decided that you like this person from the trusty dating site and now you are going out for an official date. So, how can you flirt in a more direct way in this case?
First and most importantly, you need to make the interaction interesting. For example, when you meet this person in a coffee shop, you can say something along the lines of, “You look so attractive in that T-shirt.”
Most people would probably say something like, “You look very nice in that T-shirt”. But you want to flirt like a pro, so you will use more interesting words. It’s very simple to do, and you can do it!
Secondly, you would be well-advised to master the art of eye flirting. When you are sitting down with this individual, you should totally maintain intense eye contact for at least three seconds. Since this person is already going out with you for a date, they should expect some tension like that, so you don’t need to worry about rejection.
At the same time, you need to slow down your movement and what you are saying (don’t talk too fast). If you talk too fast, you will sound like a nervous loser, so just don’t do it!
I highly recommend having a coffee date because when a cup of hot/warm drink is in front of you, you are more likely to move slowly while taking your time to enjoy the hot drink. That is a fantastic way to make you behave in a more seductive way.
Last but not least, I’d like you to look at different areas on this person’s face – look at their forehead for one second; look at their eyebrows for one second; look at their eyes for one second; look at their nose for one second; look at their lips for one second.
In other words, your eyes are gradually “travelling” on this person’s face as you are talking slowly – this is extremely romantic; better still, your date has seen enough romantic Hollywood movies to know what that means.
With these techniques, you are ready to go out with the person that you’ve met on the reliable dating site now. Just make sure your grooming is done in the right way – your clothes don’t need to be expensive, but they have to be right. Also, your hygiene is paramount as well – ensure your breath is fresh and your hair & nails are clean. This is very important no matter you are a man or a woman.
Incidentally, never wear too much perfume. I don’t care how expensive or famous your perfume is – just don’t overdo it! A little bit perfume is enough because wearing too much perfume makes your date remember your perfume only, whilst wearing a little bit perfume makes your date remember you!
“Hopefully you’ve got a lot out of this article & happy dating on trusty dating websites!”