Attraction is not a choice. You can’t choose to be attracted to someone. If you need to consciously choose to feel attracted to a person, you are simply not attracted to that person. Period. This theory not only applies to attraction but also applies to passion, e.g., when you can’t even explain why you enjoy a certain hobby, that’s your real passion; in contrast, if you have to use logic to explain why you want to do something, you already don’t like it! That’s why you can identify what your interests are by looking at what you loved doing when you were a child – that’s your real passion. Speaking of international dating, hopefully, you do it simply because you like it!
- Stop chasing women up for dates.
If you have any chasing behavior, it’s time to stop it now. Remember: chasing women won’t get the result you desire because when you are chasing a woman, you are basically saying, “please pick me” – that’s not attractive.
Always remember your worth: You are a high-value guy.
- Overcome your fear.
When you are single, not chasing women is a bit scary as you might even feel like you have no option. The moment you stop chasing her, you are implying that you do have options because that indicates there are other women who would like to meet you and date you. This is attractive behavior.
If you want to live the biggest & boldest life, please find a way to overcome your fears.
- Live in abundance.
This concept needs to be explained in different ways.
First of all, living in abundance starts with your habits. For instance, instead of buying 5 low-quality outfits that you don’t really like, you would be well-advised to buy 1 high-quality outfit that you absolutely love. When you wear a high-quality outfit, you feel more confident because your external confidence influences how you feel inside. Another example is getting a high-quality haircut even though it costs more. I got a great haircut last week and have benefited from the new haircut already: Because I feel amazing due to the new haircut, I have said yes to more party invitations. As a result, I’ve met some new people and they are introducing new opportunities to me now.
Second, living in abundance actually means having more in life. My mentor is a fashionista who strongly believes that more is more – her apartment’s master bedroom is her closet; she sleeps in the guest bedroom. I know this sounds very unusual, but it works pretty well for her: She feels very excited every day because she looks forward to wearing the most beautiful clothes each day. Life is short – make every outfit count (that’s her motto). She is one of the most successful women that I know because she is happy, healthy, and accomplished.
Last but not least, abundance is important in dating, i.e., you are a confident guy with high self-worth, so you have dating options in your love life. That means the woman that you like needs to believe that other ladies are attracted to you because you are a high-value guy. Therefore, she feels absolutely great about herself – an amazing guy like you has decided to be with her.
- Work on your conversation skills.
If you keep reading this blog, you will learn a lot about communication skills, so please watch this space!
“In international dating, what truly creates strong attraction for a woman is feeling like she is chosen by a guy who obviously has options in his love life.”
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