How to implement real self-love while you are looking for an international relationship

More and more people are single these days because the divorce rate is high in western countries and a lot of individuals don’t really have the peer pressure to get married in the first place. Research shows that about 25% of people who were born after 1980 will remain single and dating forever. In other words, about one quarter of them will never get married, but they will keep dating because they still like romance. Having said that, the majority of adult population want to be married, so if you are looking for an international relationship, this blog is certainly for you.

A single person’s happy day:

I’m also single. Today I had a day off because last week I worked on the weekend. Here is how I spent my day today:

I slept inand got up at 11am.
I had a quick breakfast in an Italian café.
I had a massage and a facialin a spa.
I had a delicious lunch in a Japanese restaurant.
I bought grocery from the supermarketand went home.
I had a long shower.
I am writingthis blog article while listening to some relaxing house music right now.
I will cookdinner later tonight.

The highlights of my day:

The massage and the facial were definitely perfect.
I received a text message from my manager who told me that I am nominated as the star employee of the year. Therefore, I need to have my photo taken tomorrow – my photo will be on the homepage of the company’s website. Since I’ve been wearing a mask since 2020, I haven’tused my lipstick for more than two years. As my lipstick has already expired and is in the rubbish bin now, I will need to buy a new lipstick tomorrow morning. Ideally, it should be a red lipstick, for I’m going to wear a long brown leather jacket tomorrow (just for the photo).

Clearly, because of my singledom, I am able to pursue my passions fully – I love sleeping in, eating out, getting a monthly massage and facial, having long showers and writing. I can do all of these guilt-free simply because I’m single – I have the freedom and all of my free time is mine.

How to actually implement real self-love:

Many people use Instagram every day and they admire those Instagram models who share their fabulous lives online. But frankly, that’s not real self-love. As I see it, real self-love is doing my own thing!

So, here are my best tips for those who are currently single and looking for international relationships:

Discover what makes you genuinely happy, and do exactly that as often as possible. Take myself as an example. Music, writing, reading, good food as well as massage & facial make me very happy. As a result, I do those as frequently as possible!
Eliminate anxiety from your identity. A major study shows that anxiety is the most common mental health issue in developed countries. Hence, even though you don’thave anxiety disorder, you’d better prevent it from happening by proactively looking after your mental health and wellbeing. This can be done by having a new identity statement, e.g., “I’m a confident, relaxed and calm person; I can tactfully handle challenges in life.” This is especially important during the pandemic as COVID-19 has made almost everyone more anxious than before!
Fully understand Law of Reciprocityand you’ll enjoy the benefits in the long term. Okay. The real reason why I was nominated as the star employee of the year is because I went above and beyond to help the organization maximize the revenue. My contribution is tremendous, so the management team can’t ignore that. The senior manager personally gave me a gift card for me to buy something that I like; my line manager has nominated me as the star employee of the year, which means I will be featured on the organization’s website homepage and receive another gift card from the company. When I’m doing more for my employer, I’m not thinking about getting extra benefits – I do more only because I am genuinely passionate about my work. Then Law of Reciprocity In life and at work, we only get what we give.