Dating advice: How and when to save a romantic relationship

Even if your relationship is falling apart, it doesn’t mean you are supposed to blame yourself.

Take action early.

If you notice something is wrong in your relationship, you’d better do something about it quickly. I know it sounds like hard work to some degree, yet a serious relationship is literally work, and there is nothing wrong with that. Fortunately, if you take action fast, the work wouldn’t be very hard. And that’s good news.

Iris Apfel (author of Iris Apfel: Accidental Icon) argues that her marriage has been successful because she and her husband see the humor in nearly everything in life and they are not petty at all. As a result, this happy couple could prevent big issues from happening in the first place.

Yes, humor is very powerful and not being petty is highly effective when it comes to dealing with most issues in a relationship.

As I see it, the key to a wonderful relationship is never stop flirting with your lady. Actually, adding humor to the flirting process will make your relationship even better. That’s my honest opinion in terms of dating advice.

Do you want to be happy? Or do you want to be right?

When you’re arguing with your lady, usually you would like to be right instead of happy. In my view, it’s a common mistake.

Maybe you are 100% right, but if being right does not even make you happy, then what’s the point of being right at all times?

Let me give you this analogy: when two nations are in a war against each other, both countries think they are absolutely right. However, the war is totally wrong as the damage is horrifying.

After an argument happens in a relationship, you need to have at least 3 positive experiences so as to feel happy again. Hence, it is very important to stop the unnecessary argument from happening in the first place.

If your lady’s behavior really annoys you, please examine the situation carefully and ask yourself, “Does her behavior violate my non-negotiables?”

Let’s say your lady’s behavior does not violate your non-negotiables, it’s okay for you to have some negative emotions or feelings. Yet nine times out of ten, emotions and feelings are not facts.

So, when a conflict happens, you should immediately find out whether it’s about emotions/feelings or facts.

When you focus on facts rather than emotions and feelings, you become a happier man. It’s a great way to choose to be happy instead of being right at all times, according to dating coaches from an international dating website.

The best dating advice: When to move on…

Ending a relationship can be a wise and intelligent decision, too.

I know that saving a relationship is key. Nonetheless, not every relationship should be saved, in my viewpoint.

You may want to save your sanity when chemistry and compatibility are both gone in your relationship. We all know what chemistry means, but what is compatibility?

Compatibility refers to the fact that you and your lady have the same / similar / compatible worldviews and values.

Let’s say you and your lady both love learning and reading. In that case, you share the same value system – both of you highly value knowledge and growth.

If you like wine and your lady likes cooking, you have similar values because you are both into the foodie culture.

In terms of compatible values, an example can be: you like watching TV and your lady likes writing. As you are watching TV, she can be writing something on her laptop. No, you don’t really have to do the same activity at the same time; as long as your interests do not affect each other negatively, it’s fine!