How to communicate your boundaries and needs in international dating

In a healthy relationship, you set boundaries in love correctly and get your needs met. Romantic relationships become stressful when boundaries are crossed and needs are not met. So, it’s very important to know how to communicate your needs and boundaries in international dating.

How to communicate your needs tactfully:

You don’t want to look needy, but you can surely communicate your needs to your partner by clarifying your standards because your standards are usually what you need:

“We need a lot of shared experiences to strengthen our emotional connection in this relationship, so we should travel together twice a year.”

“In the grand scheme of things, one or two disagreements or misunderstandings are not very important because life is short and we are only here for a little while – we have to focus on our quality time together.”

Although having misunderstandings and disagreements is common in every relationship, you still need to know how to disagree with your partner tactfully when you are setting boundaries in love:

“Hanging out with friends is necessary, but going out with friends every single night is not necessary. I need some quiet time after work in order to relax properly, so can we go out with friends on the weekend in the future?”

“If there is an issue, we should cope with that issue instead of checking each other’s phones because no problem is solved by checking each other’s phones.”

How to have uncomfortable conversations in international dating:

If you’ve noticed a problem in your relationship, you would be well-advised to deal with that problem as early as you can because the longer you wait, the harder the future conversation will become – the issue will probably keep growing because of the snowball effect.

Note that every relationship has its own challenges because perfection is a joke. A healthy relationship definitely has some healthy arguments because you are not living in a 100% picture perfect world. A good relationship is good not because this couple has no problem to deal with, but because this couple has the ability to handle issues tactfully!

When you are having an uncomfortable conversation, you’d better focus on your feelings and your partner’s behavior instead of your partner as a person because your partner’s behavior is not necessarily who she is as a person:

“When that happens, I feel confused. So, in the future, I would really appreciate it if you can tell me what might happen in advance.” (You are not blaming her; you only describe a fact and how you feel. What’s more, you clearly tell her what you expect in the future, so it’s easier for her to listen to you, understand you and meet your standards in the long term.)