You send someone a text message, but she doesn’t respond to your message. You feel hurt, which is understandable. But I’d like to let you know that not responding to your message doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t like you.

  • Some very busy people literally forget to respond to text messages that they really would like to respond to.

A very close friend of mine is kind of forgetful. For example, he sometimes can’t remember who told him what in terms of anecdotes in our social circle. Also, the fact that he has spelling mistakes on his website means he is clearly not a detail-oriented person. Therefore, at times he wouldn’t respond to my emails or text messages, but I don’t blame him – I know that someone like him probably wouldn’t respond to messages in time. For instance, perhaps he saw an email or an Instagram direct message and really liked it, so he was saying to himself, “I’ll respond to this later when I have more time to write a response.” Yet then he forgot about that later on. That’s quite possible.

Someone like that may even thought he has already responded to an email or message, whereas in reality, he hasn’t. However, that is not his fault because he is only human and every human being has flaws – nobody is perfect.

Honestly, as I don’t need to derive my confidence or validation from him or his messages, I don’t find his behavior offensive. Instead, I find that quite normal, for I understand how different people think differently and operate differently. Indeed, not everyone is supposed to be as well-organized as me! And I shouldn’t ask others to be so well-organized anyway! Please note that if you have joined an online dating site, you will meet some people that are extremely busy, as we live in a hectic world right now. Hence, please don’t feel bad if someone doesn’t respond to your messages. You can initiate the communication again after a week or two (or even after a month). If you still hear radio silence, then you will have your answer – in other words, if someone occasionally doesn’t respond to your messages, don’t take it personally. In contrast, if someone never responds to your message, you know they are not interested. In that case, you have to move on.

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  • Successful people are actually more productive.

Research shows that successful people are definitely more productive: they achieve more because they get more things done every day! Truthfully, if something is very important to you, you will find a way to do it – you will make time for it! Let’s look at the situation in this way: If something is important to you in your house, you would make room for it!

Thus, if someone is important to you in your life, you would certainly give time to that person. Obviously, if someone isn’t giving you their time at all in the online dating world, that’s not the right person for you. Remember: if a woman is just too busy for a period of time, that’s not a problem; what you really need to assess is how much she is investing in this relationship with you realistically.

“Online dating gives you so many options, so you can surely find the right woman efficiently. Scarcity is caused by lack of options. Abundance is caused by having a lot of options. When you have an abundant mindset, you feel much more confident because you know you will find true love in record time.”