Why you should drive the train in an international relationship

In contemporary western society, the No. 1 mistake that a lot of men make in dating and relationships is being polite and nice at all times. Note that there is a big difference between being kind and being polite and nice. Being kind is an admirable quality that people respect, whereas being nice is often about these situations: you’re nice as you want something from someone, e.g., you want a woman to be with you; you’re nice because you are avoiding difficult conversations in a relationship; you’re nice because you aren’t alpha…. In addition, being polite and nice is kind of boring – if you have the nice guy syndrome, you must ask yourself, “Am I nice because I want something from a woman? Or am I nice because I’m actually kind? Why am I so nice?”

Be a decisive leader in an international relationship.

When a woman asks you where you should go for the next date, please don’t ask her to make a decision because that’s not fun. In fact, if you are laid-back at all times, you are boring as talking to you may start to feel like talking to her son from her perspective, and that’s boring. Here is how to be decisive in life:

When your partner asks you where you should go for your next date, you tell her exactly where to go and what to do. When you recommend a place to her for the next date, you tell her exactly why that place is a good option. Always make plans for each date and don’t expect her to make plans for you because you are a real man with confidence and competence.
Whenever something bothers you or there is a conflict that you need to deal with, you are calm enough to figure these out: “Have we addressed this before?” “Does this need to be said again?” “Will saying it again be helpful now?” “Will the situation change if this is addressed now?” “Is this a real problem? Or is this something that I need to handle in my inner world?” For example, Michael and his partner had a major issue in their relationship many years ago & that problem was fixed to some degree because they did the best they could. Now whenever Michael thinks about what happened at that time, he is still mad. However, Michael is wise enough to tell himself, “This was addressed before. If I repeat it now, it’s not helpful because it would be a waste of time. I have to focus on what’s important right now and be present here and now.” In fact, as Michael gets older, things like that bother him less because nowadays he knows that’s simply something that he needs to handle in his inner world – it’s not an external problem anymore as it’s been so many years & he has to learn how to let it go. Let the past remain in the past. Full stop.

Do you have a unique pairing in your character?

A high-value guy is never confined to 1 role in life. This attractive man can be the decisive king when that aspect of his personality is needed. He can also be spontaneous and playful, i.e., the fun-loving jester. This unique combination keeps the international relationship passionate and dynamic. The king is the source of admiration and respect, while the jester has the appeal. An attractive guy embodies both the jester’s attractiveness and the king’s power/strength, so his partner is fascinated. What’s more, if you are a wonderful communicator, your emotional availability will impress your partner and keep her interested.