Anxiety and stress come from overmanaging life and overthinking. I’m going to share with you some powerful techniques so that you can quickly stop overthinking. In this way, you can enjoy safe dating and a happy life. 😊

  • From Mind Full to Mindful:

Mind Full: You always think about those anxieties and anxious thoughts. Those weird anxieties and annoying thoughts grow all the time.

Mindful: You notice what you hear, see, smell and feel. You focus on your body movements as well as your breath. When irritating thoughts arise, you simply watch them go (like watching cars go while standing still).

Just let maddening thoughts be there so they can have a chance to automatically disappear. Not every bizarre thought deserves our attention. If a strange thought rocks up, merely let it be there without arguing with it. Allow it to stay there so that it can gradually disappear.

Truthfully, when you engage / argue with that thought, you will surely have more and more anxious thoughts, as things only go backwards in your inner world. Here is why:

If you’d like to become successful in your career or improve personal relationships, you have to do something proactively so you can see good results. 😉

Yet if you’d like to cope with anxiety, doing more will certainly make you feel worse. Apparently, things surely go backwards in your inner world.

That’s exactly why you must do less so you will be able to let your thoughts pass as time goes by.

Yes, this technique is good for you and it’s called ‘therapeutic surrender’. When you overthink things, you’re literally trying to control things that are outside your control.

Thus, when it comes to things that are outside your control, you have to use therapeutic surrender to your advantage as surrendering to destiny is so powerful.

Apart from that, you would be well-advised to do some kind of physical exercise every single day. Many psychologists highly recommend physical exercises to those who tend to overthink. If you have insomnia and / or anxiety, you’d better do some exercise for at least 30 minutes per day. The workout will burn stressful chemicals in your body so your cortisol level can be lower. As a result, you will feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.

The ideal way to feel better is to think like a kid. In this way, the childlike mindset will give you a new perspective and cultivate your creativity as well as imagination quickly. No, that’s not childish. That’s creative.

  • When you calm down, you can enjoy safe dating:

Helen Russell, the author of The Atlas of Happiness and Leap Year, states that if you have a secret crush in the office, it’s actually better for your work as you’d really look forward to going to work every single morning. What’s more, Monday morning will be just as exciting as Friday afternoon. A Chinese psychiatrist also points out that having a crush in the office is very good for your health and wellbeing, for this experience helps your body release positive/happy hormones; as a result, you will live longer. If you have a secret crush at work, you may take some notes.

Because this blog is all about safe dating, I’d like to clarify this – misdirection is a technique that can be used safely.

How does misdirection work in the office or at a social event? Well, here is how to use this powerful technique to your advantage:

Let’s say you like a lady in the office and you don’t know how to make her fall for you. You should totally try this subtle but powerful technique – Create a scenario where 3 individuals discuss something like Christmas plans. You and this lady stand side by side & another co-worker stands in front of you. As you are talking about what you are going to do during Christmas holidays, you naturally put your hand on this lady’s shoulder in a friendly way. At the same time, you directly face the 3rd person in the conversation. This means you merely look at the 3rd individual as you project all your energy onto the 3rd individual. You do not look at this lady. You also do not put your hand on her shoulder for a long time; 1-2 minutes would be long enough. This approach is super friendly and natural. There is nothing sexual at all.

If this lady is remotely attracted to you, this technique will make her fall in love with you. She wouldn’t even know what happened or why she starts to have feelings for you. Remember: women are very, very romantic; women love romance. You just make her fall in love with you by design, so the result is basically guaranteed.

 

“Misdirection is a safe dating technique that you can use in a natural and friendly manner.”