In the modern dating climate, we have to come up with creative ways to date safely. Today I’m going to talk about how to utilize the lessons from your previous experiences to empower yourself.

Summarize the lessons that you have learned so far.

Joan has summarized her lessons that she has learned.

Her first relationship started when she was 21 years old. That was a needy and clingy guy who couldn’t get a girlfriend. Her dad wasn’t happy with that guy, so she broke up with him.

A few months later, that guy got married, and his wife was expecting their first child already. That seems to tell Joan that she has made the right decision.

Her second relationship was an abusive and painful one. That was something that she really doesn’t want to talk about.

The third relationship was not long, but she took him to meet her parents.

Then he said to Joan, “In the past, I treated you very well, but from now on, I will treat you in the exact same way that you treat me.”

That relationship ended fairly quickly because that guy was insecure – he strongly believed that he wasn’t good enough for Joan.

One year later, Joan met her ex-husband. They got married.

About five years later, they got divorced because they fundamentally have totally different values.

What’s more, her therapist told her that her ex-husband is probably gay. That made Joan question whether that marriage was real or not.

After the divorce, Joan dated three men, but she didn’t really start a relationship with any of them.

These days Joan has become a columnist who is writing how to date safely for online dating platforms, newspapers and magazines.

“Because of my experiences in the past, I have some valuable insights into how to date safely,” says Joan, “We really have to prioritize our safety and wellbeing.”

What has Joan actually learned?

According to Joan, she has learned the following lessons:

1.If she joined an online dating website earlier, she would have had many more options. Having options is important because options lead to confidence.

2. It’s perfectly okay to try different ways to meet people: internet dating, marriage agencies, social circles, etc.

3. In order to date safely in the current dating climate, you have to know how to protect yourself, e.g., when you meet someone for the first time, please meet that person in a public venue.

“What are the paramount lessons that you shouldn’t miss out on?”