How to overcome loneliness in dating and relationships

Many men have written to me in order to tell me that they feel lonely because they are single. Therefore, today I’m writing a blog article about how to successfully overcome loneliness which is possibly a taboo topic in modern culture – can you tell people around you that you are lonely? If you are a single guy looking for a serious relationship, this article will probably help you right now.

If you are single and you feel lonely….

First of all, please note that loneliness is the real pandemic right now – it’s very, very common. In other words, you are not alone – research shows that there are countless people who feel the same way: they are just as lonely as you, if not lonelier than you.

Second, you have to be kind to yourself. Do consider the following ideas regarding self-care:

Avoid people that make you feel worse, no matter what they are to you.(For example, Joe’s mom has moved to his house recently because their circumstances have changed. As Joe’s mom doesn’t have good communication skills due to lack of education, Joe has to protect his energy and wellbeing by avoiding his mom effectively. Therefore, apart from having breakfast, lunch and dinner together, Joe doesn’t talk a lot with his mom at home. Joe has encouraged his mom to work on knitting since she has retired. Thus, that’s what she is happily doing these days. Meanwhile, Joe focuses on his career – he runs an online business and works in his home office. Joe has noticed that when he goes out with his mom for activities such as visiting the museum and going to the movies, their communication is better, for there is an external focus. As a result, Joe has quality time with his mom while taking her out for something fun twice a week. This is a great example of avoiding someone difficult tactfully without changing logistics too much. So, if you have a difficult person in your life and this person is an important family member, please remember Joe’s true story.)
Prioritize what makes you happy.(Read a good book. Listen to your favorite music. Go to the gallery. Hire a mentor who can teach you skills about dating and relationships. Do what makes you truly happy every day.)
If you are in a relationship but still feel lonely….

That’s correct. People can also feel lonely in relationships. Dating and relationships can’t eliminate loneliness altogether. In truth, the wrong relationship could make you feel extremely lonely.

Lots of people who are divorced told me that they felt incredibly lonely before they got divorced. Apparently, being in a toxic relationship is an isolating experience. If you are in a bad relationship and feel so lonely, I’d like you to consider the following advice and implement what you are reading here:

Speak to a therapist.(Actually, you don’t have to do this alone. A capable therapist can give you professional support.)
Invest in high-quality legal advice. (If you are planning to get divorced, please hire a lawyer who will probably show you the right direction as well as the best approach.)