A lot of single men feel a sense of loneliness on online dating websites, so I highly encourage men to keep a sense of faith and hope alive that true love will come.

  • What does being single mean to modern men in this day and age?

According to my observation, being single basically means living in two different worlds at the same time: 1) being present, trying mindfulness and feeling happy/grateful for the positivity in life now; 2) being open to a new relationship that can make life even better.

Personally, I think openness is a better word than hope in this situation as openness indicates a type of curiosity, i.e., you are ready for amazing things which will come along and make your life even more beautiful. By contrast, the wrong type of hope might make life less enjoyable right now. For example, Jonathan’s hope is that a woman will rock up so that he doesn’t need to deal with his loneliness anymore – this is based on fear, so it’s not the right kind of hope. In this scenario, Jonathan becomes needy and desperate – life is unenjoyable as a result. 

Here is my advice for single men looking for real relationships: you are not waiting. The ideal way to fix that sense of not having a romantic relationship is fully appreciating all the marvelous things that exist in your current single life: a lot of time for yourself, freedom, flexibility, family, friends, career, hobbies, etc.

Note that when you are panicking and despairing from a place of need and longing, you might make decisions from that place as well. As a consequence, you may settle for a wrong relationship that is bad for you. I understand that with each year that passes, when you look at your friends that have been in long-term relationships for such a long time, you might feel like you have fallen behind more and more each year. However, currently, you actually have something wonderful to celebrate if you are still single and not with the wrong woman – your future is full of possibilities.

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  • How to handle loneliness as a single man:

Being positive doesn’t mean you must feel like your life is absolutely perfect at all times. Truthfully, you may still feel sad or lonely because you don’t have a partner. Nevertheless, you don’t need to live there! Remember that your life has the potential to become truly unrecognizable within one year. As long as you know what you want, what you deserve as well as what you are looking for right now, you can join an online dating site confidently. And a lot could happen within a short amount of time. If you join the right online dating website, your love life will be transformed soon.   

“In our culture, we are not allowed to say that we feel lonely. But this is something that a large number of people feel these days, so I highly encourage single people to look for real love.”