Making informed decisions in international dating & in life

In 2008 I was made redundant by my employer at that time due to the economy, so the employer hired a career coach to talk to me on the phone after the redundancy. “The entire department was shut down because of the economy, so everyone has been made redundant,” I said to the career coach, “I’m completely lost now because the industry doesn’t look good in the current economy. That means I probably won’t be able to use my degrees and qualifications again in the future.”

“I understand how difficult this is,” said the career coach on the phone, “You would be well-advised to make an informed decision. Take some time to carefully think about this before changing your career.” I thought about my interests, pros and cons of each option, etc. for a few months, and then I found a job in a different industry which still excites me today. Truthfully, making informed decisions is not only important in careers, but also important in international dating & in life.

⦁ A key example of making an informed decision:

Apart from the example above, I also have another experience that I would like to share with you. When I was in my late 20s, I was working for a famous fashion brand in the retail environment. Because I was bullied by a co-worker, I told my supervisor about that. My supervisor actually wanted to keep the bully as she found him useful in a way, so the conflict was ongoing for more than two years. In the end, the pain became unbearable; meanwhile, even HR was involved in that issue. As the bully was highly manipulative, he told the HR advisor a completely different story. Sadly, the HR advisor believed the bully’s story and gave me a warning. What’s more, the HR advisor wanted to move me to another store of that company.

At the beginning, I didn’t want to move to another store, but since the HR advisor insisted on moving me to another store, I started to consider that option – Yes, moving to another store isn’t convenient, but at least it was a way to avoid my supervisor – that was someone that I couldn’t stand either. Therefore, I agree to move to another store. But after thinking about that option for a few days, I realized that moving to another store means I would have to start to look for a new job because the stores that I wanted to go to couldn’t give me enough hours – those stores’ staff turnover was low as their managers were pretty good. What’s more, if I found a new job immediately after moving to another store, people who were in charge of that company would be even more upset because moving me to another store already gave them more work to do, and then my resignation letter would make them more furious as that industry had difficulty finding and keeping staff, which means I wouldn’t be able to ask them to be my referees in the future at all. As a result, I asked the HR advisor not to move me to another store – I resigned directly.

As a free person, I was able to find a new job more effectively and more efficiently. That’s a typical example of making an informed decision.

⦁ Do you make informed decisions in international dating?

How do you know whether a woman is the right lady for you?

Who should you marry?

When are you supposed to make a relationship official?

Please note that you make this kind of decisions based on key information that you’ve accumulated, e.g., whether she respects you at all times, whether she meets all your non-negotiable standards, whether she is looking for a serious relationship as well, etc.

So, please answer these questions honestly:

Does she respect you at all times?

Does she meet your paramount standards?

Is she also looking for a serious relationship right now?

Only you know the answers to these questions!