In my opinion, agreeability is overrated. When you are madly in love with someone, you might want to agree with them all the time. But if you agree with everything she says, she may start to find you less attractive because 100% agreeability is actually an unattractive quality. Therefore, please don’t get into a people-pleaser mode in international dating!

⦁ Having differences gives us something to think about.

In an international relationship, you and your lady have some cultural differences, which is literally a pretty good thing because this gives you something to think about. In other words, differences give your relationship various flavors which add more fun and enjoyment to the relationship.

My friend Justin is married to a Ukrainian lady. Whenever we catch up for dinner, he would tell me the interesting things in his marriage, including their cultural differences which spark even more interest. Each time we have drinks with friends, Justin is always the best conversationalist because he has the most intriguing topics to tell us – having differences in his relationship obviously gives him something unique and stimulating to talk about. This adds texture to his personality, so now Justin is an even more attractive guy!

What’s more, a part of being challenging is to make others think. In other words, if you would like to increase your perceived challenge and attract a high-quality Ukrainian lady, you certainly need to show some differences, i.e., your opinion is sometimes different from her opinion, and that’s a beautiful thing because that makes her think about you! Remember: people get bored when they are not challenged; people get extremely bored when they have absolutely nothing to think about. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should create arguments; I’m saying you shouldn’t be afraid to stand up for what you genuinely and truly believe in. Frankly, debate can be a fun thing. However, when disagreeing with someone is expressed in the form of teasing, you’d better be more careful because there is a fine line between teasing and offending someone.

Teasing is a type of flirting. Ideally, teasing should be done like giving someone a compliment in a playful manner or talking about something that is not important to this person, i.e., this person doesn’t get any validation from that particular thing. Alternatively, teasing can be about something that they have already derived a tremendous amount of validation from, so we know it doesn’t matter: when we tease them about that, it’s already dressed up in multiple layers of massive appreciation from us. Indeed, teasing is a nuanced thing! You have to be very well-calibrated in order to do it well in international dating!

⦁ Be a boss in your arena.

When you are a boss in your arena, you are the most attractive guy! To be honest, you need to let your lady see you in your element! Remember: when you own it/when you are in your element, you are the most desirable guy!

If your lady sees you self-actualized in your area, it also inspires her to be self-actualized because she will want to master her craft as well – seeing you good at what you do is a challenge to her. By the way, it doesn’t mean you should bring your work home to do your work in front of her. It can be letting her hear you talking on the phone so that she knows you are really good at what you do. Alternatively, you may invite her to your presentation or a work event where she can see you being respected because of your knowledge and skills. That is to say, when she witnesses you do something at a high level, she will totally admire you.

“Where do you find yourself most in your element? At work? Around friends and family? Your favorite sport? Your No. 1 hobby? Do expose your lady to you in your element by bringing her to your hobby that you excel at or inviting her to a work event where she sees you highly respected by others. I’m sure this technique will improve your international dating life.”