Do you have confidence in online dating?

Nowadays because of the pandemic, many individuals feel confused, lost or depressed – for people looking for love, the dry spell caused by COVID-19 is too long. Consequently, a lot of people feel stuck or powerless right now. In order to empower you, I’m going to write something that will reignite your passion in life today. Hopefully you will have more confidence in online dating after reading this article.

No, you are not

If you haven’t found true love and now you feel heartbroken or defeated, please remember that there is a choice in front of you: Even if you feel like you have been split in 1,000 pieces, you can still look at the broken parts and ask, “What do I need to let go of right now?”

For instance, when I felt down, I looked at myself in the mirror and asked myself that very important question, and then I realized that I must let go of my past.

Everyone has a past. Life isn’t about having blissful moments every single day. Life is full of ups and downs. Therefore, we must bravely let go of the past. Then we can move on and create a beautiful future in the long run.

The second question that you need to ask yourself is, “Which beliefs and behaviors have kept me small/scared?”

I asked myself this question a while ago when I felt a bit anxious. I had Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for many years and was looking for a cure. One day I asked myself “Which belief has kept me scared?” Then all of a sudden, I realized that catastrophizing has kept me very scared for decades. In reality, nothing really bad has happened apart from several traumatic experiences in my life. Hence, I should have allowed myself to be happier!

Now I give myself the permission to be happy. It’s a decision. 😊

Are you ready for online dating?

Troy believes that now is a good time for him to get over a painful breakup and join an online dating website where he can meet suitable candidates quickly. Nonetheless, he suddenly had a feeling that makes him want to shut down his computer, “I am not ready.”

Frankly, that’s the very voice of comfort that keeps him small and it’s the exact reason why he stays in his comfort zone without taking a risk that might change his life forever. If he stays in his comfort zone for a very long time, he won’t get the results that he wants because comfort makes him hide in the chaotic background without making any progress. His life stays stagnant without unfolding a compelling future in front of him.

In order to have real transformation, Troy has to do something that actually surprises himself as well as people around him.

Research shows that anxiety and excitement come from the same area of the brain, which means it’s not hard to turn fear into excitement. Imagine the areas that you can grow, exciting experiences that you will have and amazing feelings that you will get when you further explore your passion, improve your love life and create a beautiful future.

Sometimes when my life seems stagnant, I do something different and find some inspiration in this process. For instance, I was a bit bored last weekend, so I took out an old photo album from 30 years ago and as I was looking at those old photos, I realized that when I was young, I really loved jewelry. Therefore, I went out and bought some jewelry for myself. It’s not expensive, but it’s something that I genuinely like. Because I feel happier when I wear jewelry, this is really good for my mental health. 😉

Simplify your life.

Please never over-complicate your life. You don’t have to do everything now so as to change your life. Just start somewhere. For example, I started from wearing new jewelry and I changed my feelings & emotions immediately. Similarly, you can also think about what you enjoyed doing when you were a child and do that again now.

When you have a positive mindset, you will find the strength to look for love again, thereby joining an online dating site and meeting the right woman.