In dating and relationships, the most important element is emotional connection because that’s the foundation for a romantic relationship. Do you know how to connect with a Ukrainian lady deeply?

⦁ Ask more “why” questions.

When most people talk about their favorite places in the world, they are stuck in the small talk mode most of the time, e.g., “What’s your favorite place in the world?” “When did you go there?” “What did you do when you were there?” “Did you go there with your family?”

All of these questions are basic questions that don’t reveal deeper emotions. The most important question is “Why do you like that place so much?” because “why” shows the feelings and emotions that this person associates a particular place with.

Therefore, when you are dating a Ukrainian woman, please remember to ask her more questions such as “Why do you want to be a writer?” “Why did you study art?” “Why do you like this novel?” because her answers to these questions tell you what motivates her and who she really is.

This is also a great way to get out of the small talk mode and get into deep & meaningful conversations on a date. Ideally, each date should move the needle forward, i.e., you are supposed to take your relationship to the next level by asking high-quality questions on every date.

Small talk is boring and dull. It makes people yawn. You’d better avoid small talk as much as you can when you are on a date with a Ukrainian lady.

⦁ Storytelling helps you to connect with your Ukrainian lady deeply.

Having a deep and meaningful conversation isn’t about talking about philosophy all the time. As I see it, you can use storytelling to connect with a woman deeply, and it’s much more effective than talking about philosophy!

Every time you tell her a story, you are actually telling her your personality, your standards, your boundaries, and so on, because she can learn so much about who you are through the story you tell her.

Here is an example (my good friend Aaron told me this story when I had brunch with him a while ago – note that Aaron told me this story in a peaceful, calm and happy manner):

“On my wedding day, my wife’s ex-husband suddenly rocked up without being invited. Because the wedding party was huge, we had to get a few close friends of ours to look after him. On our wedding night, my wife’s ex-husband decided to stay in our house because he traveled so far in order to attend our wedding & he couldn’t fly back home too quickly. So, I asked him to stay in the guest bedroom for the night. The next day, we had breakfast together, and then called a taxi that sent him to the airport. Before he left, I gave him a painting that I bought when I was in Australia as a gift because he wished us all the best.”

As Aaron was telling me this unusual story, I learned several key things about Aaron:

⦁ Aaron is a generous person.

⦁ Aaron is an extremely calm guy.

⦁ Aaron is able to handle unexpected situations really well because he has tact.

Clearly, you can use storytelling to tell your Ukrainian lady more about you without directly saying you are generous, calm and intelligent.

“You don’t really have to reveal your inner secrets so as to tell her about who you are, what your values are as well as what you love. Showing vulnerability via telling compelling stories help you form a deep connection with a Ukrainian woman. Of course, you can also display vulnerability via your actions, not merely verbally.”