A close friend of mine has been single for almost 10 years. Now he is wondering whether he can feel more confident when it comes to online dating. He says he has got so comfortable being independent and alone that he is scared to open up to a new woman after such a long time, so he wants to know how to overcome this challenge.

  • It’s very important to feel comfortable when you are single.

Many men never feel comfortable when they are single. Consequently, they are desperate, which could lead to bad decisions in dating and relationships. 

Because my friend is comfortable when he is single, that’s a good sign! Just like any change, now it should probably be a case of stretching himself a little bit more. He doesn’t need to give his soul to a new woman and lose all of the amazing things from his independent, single life. If you are also in his situation, I’m sure you will learn a thing or two from this blog post. 😉

It’s time to meet a few new people and experience that flirtation of being on a very romantic date. Just take it date by date. One step at a time. If you had fun on a date and felt a genuine, beautiful connection, then you should see that person again! In terms of the things you truly want in life, you must show up for them! For example, in order for a woman to see your character, you’d better be a bit more generous with your emotions and time. If you begin to feel uncomfortable, you would be well-advised to put the brakes on. This is a basic principle of online dating. 😊

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  • What if online dating leads to a long-distance relationship?

If you meet someone online but she is from a different country, it’s your responsibility to keep connecting with her. 

Ideally, you should mix texting with phone calls, FaceTime, voice notes, and so forth. You have to make that time and connection absolutely sacred. I understand that long-distance relationships aren’t easy. In order for a woman to want to be exclusive with a man that is so far away, she has to see it as an authentic connection which is so valuable that she is happy to give up certain opportunities in her world. 

 “When you have the combination of chemistry and connection, exclusivity will come.”