International dating and relationships: How to make your comfort zone actually yours

The term “comfort zone” doesn’t have a positive connotation these days because we all know phrases such as “You must get out of your comfort zone” and “The success you desire is always outside of your comfort zone”. However, I would argue that although the above-mentioned advice must be excellent, the original meaning of “comfort zone” shouldn’t be ignored: “comfort zone” can be interpreted in a positive way in international dating and relationships. Let’s remain positive!

What does “comfort zone” mean originally?

Originally, “comfort zone” refers to factors that make you comfortable and happy in life in general. There is nothing wrong with “comfort zone”: You need enough confidence, a positive mindset, a happy relationship, a good job and amazing family & friends because these make you satisfied.

Gradually, “comfort zone” has become negative because people start to say “Think outside the box and get out of your comfort zone” and “You can’t stay in your comfort zone and expect change.” Well, indeed, everyone is supposed to keep learning and improving themselves – that’s totally correct. Nevertheless, what I’m trying to say in this article is “comfort zone” itself isn’t bad at all. In fact, it’s a beautiful thing because it keeps you feel great. It’s only bad if you stop growing.

In other words, you should expand your comfort zone instead of staying stagnant. That’s the whole point!

Your “comfort zone” has to be with you at all times.

Many people lose themselves when they are in relationships. That means they rely on their partners to make them happy. For instance, Jason has been in a relationship for several years. Now he is employed by his girlfriend who is his current boss. That is to say, his girlfriend gave him a job. Most of his friends are his girlfriend’s friends because he moved to this city for a romantic relationship – he didn’t know anyone in this area previously. Frankly, Jason’s risk is high because if he leaves his girlfriend, he will probably have to lose his job and his social circle – his comfort zone won’t really go with him as his comfort zone belongs to his girlfriend in a way.

In order to remain independent, you have to make sure that your comfort zone goes with you wherever you go. This is the best way to maintain your individuality in a romantic relationship, which is so important!

Are you proactively building your own comfort zone now? What does your comfort zone consist of? Let’s have a look at Mark’s comfort zone below.

Mark has been interested in international dating for quite a while, so now he is dating a Slavic lady that he absolutely adores. Though he is in a relationship, he has his own social circle – he has a Happy Hour with his friends after work every Friday. He has a very decent job and he is proud of his career achievements because he is an accomplished guy. He is well-educated and intelligent & he loves reading. His No. 1 hobby is reading non-fiction books as he is a life-long learner. He also likes travelling and has been to 36 countries already.

I’m sure Mark’s comfort zone is with him no matter he is in a relationship or not because factors in his comfort zone aren’t determined by his relationship. Of course, an amazing relationship is a key part of his comfort zone, but a high-value guy like Mark isn’t needy or clingy. He knows his value, so he is pretty sure that he will have options if the current relationship doesn’t work out. Nonetheless, he has faith in his girlfriend and their relationship – it’s a sustainable relationship, which has been proven.