How to be a well-spoken dater while dating an Eastern European lady

A great dater is definitely a highly effective communicator. Today I’m going to share with you some powerful techniques that will make you a well-spoken conversationalist when you are on a date with an Eastern European lady!

Turn your baggage into an asset.

Everyone has a past. Maybe your past isn’t pleasant, but it doesn’t have to be your baggage.

Frankly, my past was painful (just like pretty much everyone’s past); however, I have reconciled with my past completely because now I believe that my past has made me who I am today – I have become a high achiever because of my past.

In 2012, I left my ex-husband and we got divorced in 2013 because he isn’t straight but he decided to hide that fact. Truthfully, he probably can’t accept the fact that he is gay. I actually think it’s okay to be gay, but perhaps he doesn’t think so. Basically, he married me in order to look straight and fit in – he wants to be mainstream.

Anyway, that marriage was not right as it didn’t work for me and it didn’t work for him either. We broke up eventually. After the divorce, I started to read self-help books and attend personal development seminars in order to work on my mindset. In truth, I transformed my life completely as a result.

After leaving my ex-husband, I started my own business and have achieved the type of success that I couldn’t even imagine in the past. Now I’m a totally changed person in almost every way: I dress well; I am a curious reader; I am business-savvy.So, if your Eastern European girlfriend asks questions about your past, you can say something along the lines of, “I have definitely learned a lot from my past as my previous experiences have taught me so much. Now I know what to value and what not to value.”

The power of external references:

When I was younger, I worked as a customer service representative. Whenever there was a customer that was complaining, I used a very effective strategy to handle the situation: First of all, I agree with the customer. Second, I find a third party that is not here to blame so that the customer will feel better.

I can’t disagree with the customer because if I blame the customer, the customer will only get louder. I also can’t blame myself because I don’t want to give the customer too much power.

Thus, the third party has become a highly useful external reference in this scenario.

Interestingly, if you would like to train your Eastern European girlfriend properly, you can also leverage the power of external references to show her how to treat you correctly. For instance, you can tell her what you like as well as what you dislike in others (third party/external reference): “My best friend Alexander’s girlfriend likes drinking and smoking. I don’t understand why an elegant woman would do that. I’m sure an intelligent lady would be more health-conscious.”

Now your Eastern European lady knows that you highly value health, wellbeing and elegance. Hence, she wants to live up to your standards now!