A relationship requires mutual support, understanding and investment. In other words, both partners should give each other authentic support, genuine understanding and emotional investment, thereby creating a healthy culture in this long-term international relationship.

  • The principle of inversion:

Many people have asked me, “What should I do to make my relationship healthy?”

In this blog article, I won’t give you a standard answer like what you should do. Instead, I’d like to introduce the principle of inversion: Start from the result that you don’t want, and look at what action/behaviors cause that result, and then find out what not to do.

So, what would people do to make a relationship unhealthy?

The answer is pretty clear: When people are jealous, petty, paranoid, hypervigilant and controlling, relationships become unhealthy.

Therefore, you have to do the opposite: Be relaxed, trusting, humorous and supportive. Then your relationship will be healthy in the long term. Indeed, your attitude determines the direction of your romantic relationship.

  • When you choose to feel good, you are creating happiness and joy in your international relationship.

Your goal is just like a beautifully-wrapped present sitting on a conveyor belt. The conveyor belt is actually your feelings: When you feel good, the conveyor belt speeds up, so you can achieve your goal faster.

Let’s say your goal is to build a very happy marriage. Now, you would be well-advised to choose to feel good by consciously selecting positive thoughts when you wake up every morning.

Personally, I write a positive journal entry each morning after waking up at 7am. This good habit gives me the momentum that I need throughout the day. It has also helped me to achieve many goals in my life.

Please carefully think about how your partner has helped you, and truly appreciate her contribution. You can even write down how your partner has added tremendous value to your life in detail, and be totally grateful for her support. When your brain is filled with love, appreciation and gratitude, you will cultivate a healthy culture in your international relationship.

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