Your habits become your reality. Here are 3 things that you must stop doing if you want to find a high-value girlfriend:
- Stop looking for “the one”.
Hollywood movies always talk about “the right person”, “the one”. But you know what, I’m here to tell you the truth: “the one” doesn’t exist. Now please let me explain.
Because you are a high-value guy, your standards are high. In contrast, a low-value man doesn’t even have a soul, so of course it’s much easier for him to find a “soulmate” – the most uncool people are all married, right?
You are a high-value man, so you shouldn’t expect a woman to be “the one” the moment you meet her. In reality, “the one” doesn’t exist; someone becomes the one. More specifically, when you meet a woman who reasonably meets your most important standards, it is your responsibility to train her properly so that she can become the one. For example, you must reward her good behavior and punish her bad behavior. You have to communicate your standards and expectations cleanly and clearly so that she will have a good understanding of what to do and what not to do in this relationship. That’s how she becomes the one!
- Stop wearing a mask.
In his book The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives, Lewis Howes states that most men wear masks when they interact with women – they pretend to be someone that they are not in order to impress women. But if you are looking for a long-term, serious and meaningful relationship, wearing a mask will only hinder the relationship.
You can pretend to be somebody else for a month, yet you can’t do that forever. If your girlfriend falls in love with your representative rather than who you really are, it’s not a sustainable relationship.
- Stop expecting things from Eastern European women that you’re unwilling to do for them.
Jay Shetty famously said, “Karma is real.” Actually, this isn’t totally about some kind of religious belief; it’s literally science – Law of Reciprocity.
Therefore, if you are unwilling to look after a woman, please don’t expect her to take care of you. If you lie to your girlfriend, chances are she won’t be honest with you either. Don’t underestimate a woman’s IQ even if you’ve already used her for your selfish reasons because no one will be used and abused forever – she will certainly talk about her relationship with her family and friends who will tell her what’s actually happening – her family and friends are not in the picture, so they can see the picture clearly!
- What to do on a date:
Please make eye contact with her. This isn’t the easiest thing in the world when you are so attracted to her. Yet not making eye contact is defensive and it can be misinterpreted or misunderstood. The lady may think you are secretive if you avoid eye contact. Therefore, please remember to make eye contact with her when you are on a date! Nevertheless, if you are in a group at a party, make sure that you look at everybody. Avoid focusing on one person too much in this case. Next, please don’t stare – that’s just rude and creepy. What’s more, your body language should be open and relaxed. Don’t cross your arms or let your bag stand between you and the lady. Just keep the drinks down by your side and relax. Otherwise, barriers between two people only creates obvious social discomfort. Also, it’s important to remain still. Don’t express your ideas and opinions too quickly when she is talking. Lastly, please keep upright because healthy posture helps you to build confidence. I know this is external confidence. But please don’t underestimate the power of external confidence – when external confidence is solid, it can improve internal confidence. If you don’t believe it, just try wearing the best outfit in your closet. How do you feel inside? Well, if you don’t have nice clothes to wear, it’s time to go shopping because you deserve good clothes. Best-selling author Brian Tracy says everyone would be well-advised to double their budget and buy much less, e.g., if you only buy items that are under $100 per item, you should buy items that cost less than $200 per item from now on (but buy less). In this way, you actually spend the same amount of money, yet both your external confidence and internal confidence can be boosted quickly!
“When you are on a date, do not lean into the woman. You would be well-advised to lean back so that you can look cool and alpha.”